Confession.. please read my friends..

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Confession.. please read my friends..
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Mon, 03-22-2004 - 7:24pm




Everyone.. In the year and half I have been here, for me this is probably the most important post I have ever written.


I have been trying to figure out how to say this for awhile now, and I tried doing it a different way but that has felt deceitful since I did it and im sorry.... But the post got lots of positive response so that has made this easier for me now...

*hugs ~ Caly

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Tue, 03-23-2004 - 10:31am
Caly

I am so proud of you for having the courage to "come out" to us here on the board. I know it must have been scary for you. I would never think less of you just because of your orientation. When I was younger, I had many friends in the gay-bi-lesbian community, and even though we have drifted apart over the years I still remember them fondly. I hope you feel better now you have this "off your chest". I just feel bad that you seem to have been worried about how we all would react. We appreciate you for YOU. That is not dictated by who you are attracted to. I hope you never have cause to regret telling this part of your life, and I wish you much happiness.

Sara

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Tue, 03-23-2004 - 10:53am
((((((Caly))))))))Why should it matter? It matters what's in your heart. You are a great person and nothing can change that. Thank you for the confidence in us. I'm glad you were able to share it with us.

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Tue, 03-23-2004 - 11:40am


(((((((((Caly)))))))))), my friend, as you know, I am taking a few days to lurk and take care of me since I am going through a very difficult and painful time of my own.

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Tue, 03-23-2004 - 11:58am
Caly, Love is Love not matter who gives it or who receives it. There is not enough of it in this world. Kudos to you for being who you are. Sexuality is so irrelevant in the scheme of things. Sometimes I wish I were a Lesbian, because I think women are much more loving and acceptable of who we are. I don't mean that in a silly way, just that I envy anyone who has found someone to love, regardless of their sexuality!

Good Luck to you and we all love you no matter who you are
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Tue, 03-23-2004 - 11:59am



Caly,

i think that this was very brave of you and it makes no difference to me whether you are gay or straight that doesn't change ther person inside and I am glad that you have choosen to tell us and let us into your life just a bit more.

I have many gay friends back in arizona and I am being honest when I say I have more fun being around them than most straight people, they would make fun of me because I am straight and the men would tease me saying that I was trying to steal their boyfriends but anyways it is one of those things you have to be there for in order to understand...

Caly, I am glad that you told us and I am glad that you feel comfortable enough to tell us and I know for fact that it changes nothing about what we think of you we all love you no matter what.

Erin

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Tue, 03-23-2004 - 12:32pm
Caly,

Wow Girl! It took so much courage for you to share this secret with us. My dad was gay (he's deceased now). I knew it from the time I was 11 and it was my big secret. I told a friend when I was in high school. She didn't say anything and we never spoke of it again. Some time after college, I got sick of keeping it a secret. I usually bring it up to people if they start making homophobic remarks, just to make them uncomfortable.

I went to an all-women's college that was 30% lesbian. If you had gone to Mills or Wellsley, you would have had a different reception in college. It became very normalized for me there.

My cousin is bisexual. He's a sweetheart. I feel closer to him than to any of my siblings. He lives in Berkeley and is connected to a large gay community, mostly lesbians. His partner is a woman is also bisexual. They have a very strong network.

I'm so glad that you were able to finally unload this secret that has become such a burden to you. I haven't read the other responses (15! Wow!). I hope that everyone can understand and support you. This is a beautiful place of support and you are the leader in supporting and caring about others.

Congratulations on moving forward to take care of yourself and do what's best for you. I know that divorce is a big step. The hardest part is starting over. The best part is being free to finally be yourself. Your are more mature and know yourself better than the last time you were single. The life ahead of you will your first chance to really be yourself and live authentically.

I'm so happy for you! I applaud your bravery and support you in everything you do, Sweetie.

Love,

MariaC

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Tue, 03-23-2004 - 12:59pm
Hey Caly

All I can say to that is "Good for you", it must be very difficult to be going through SO much. Im happy for you that you have been able to tell us. It must feel good to be able to be the real you for a change.

I feel through all the posts of yours that Ived read I already knew the real you anyway, that of which is a good and caring person. Thats what matters to me, how you treat people................. not anything to do with sexuality thats just a personal thing that has nothing to do with anyone but the partner you are with......know what I mean?

I wish you all the best, and look forward to reading many more of your posts, I have no life so I am living through you now.........LOL

Gayle

Have a good one,  

  Gayle

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Tue, 03-23-2004 - 2:04pm

Wow all!


I was going to try and reply to each of you individually like I started to do and came back today to find soooo many wonderful messages of support!

*hugs ~ Caly

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Tue, 03-23-2004 - 8:39pm
Hi, Caly...I just got back from a trip to interview for a scholarship, so I didn't get a chance to read your post or the replies until now. I just want to let you know that I am glad that you feel comfortable enough here to share that fact about yourself...and that I feel no differently about you because of it. You are still the wonderful, caring person that you have always been...regardless of your sexuality.

I know this must have been hard for you, the coping with conflicting feelings (as you may know, I've dealt with some similar feelings myself over the years)...and I'm proud of you for hanging in there.

I feel as though I already know the "real" Caly...but it is nice to know about this part of you as well. You have done so much for the women on this board, I hope you will find lots of support and caring in return.

Hugs,

Rose

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