how to be supportive?
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| Fri, 03-26-2004 - 4:38am |
me and him started dating about a month ago tho we have decided to stop since he is still having doubts. i try to be as supportive as i can and being there for him when he needs it but frankly i have no idea what to do or say when he starts getting upset and mad at himself for falling for this other woman.
since i know what it feels like to be depressed, i can see where he is coming from but i dont know how to be supportive or what to say when he gets this way, esp when he starts getting mad at himself and hating himself for what happened. i am afraid taht he will go back to his wife just for the kids only and having grown up with parents that were together for the kids only, i dont think that is a good idea esp foor his kids.
does anyone have any ideas on how to be more supportive and caring for him?
sarah

The people who are suffering the most here are absolutely his wife and his children. From what it sounds like, he made a big mistake. He made his bed and now has to lay in it. Im certainly hoping that doesnt want to be with his wife now because the first choice isnt there anymore.
Its between him and his wife, and I think all you can really do is tell him what you think and be there as a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on. I hope it all works out in the end. Take care
Welcome, Sarah!
Debbie