Overwhelmed, Stressed, Disappointed, and

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Registered: 11-01-2003
Overwhelmed, Stressed, Disappointed, and
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Fri, 03-26-2004 - 1:45pm
in Tears.


It has been an extremely rough week. It started on Sunday when I had to get in between the electrician and my husband. Voices were rising and I did not what it to get out of control. It is a long story with the electrician and I will not bore you with the details but lets just say that the man is very nice off the job but a real prima donna on the job.

On Monday, my doctor and mother determined that I should stay on the regiment that I am currently on until the end of the construction. The original plan was just to get me thought the winter but my doctor was concerned that I may experience a major set back if I did not continue. I was a little skeptical because I have been doing so well but as fate would have it, it proved to me that Mom and Doc know best.

My daughter and her boyfriend are living here at the house for the week as my daughter is off for spring break. I love having them here but the extra work is just a little hard. There is laundry piled in the hall across from the laundry closet. They make most of they own meals but leave the dishes for me. I really don’t mind doing the dishes as I have to do the ones from our meals it is just some days are a little harder to face then others. They both work and they help so much with the building of the house and with the little ones that I would rather do the dishes then ask them to clean up after themselves. It is only for one week but why this week of all weeks?

Every morning I wake up to receive my marching orders, they consist of making telephone calls and waiting for their replies or running small errands. Every morning I hear my husband dry heaving and I feel so awful for him. I know that he can not help himself as far as the gagging goes most of us know it is hard to control our emotions at time of great stress. I am at a cross road as to what to do, push him to get the building done and over with or just let it keep dragging on.

I am so disappointed today; the plan for this weekend was to put the plywood down on the desks. We need to get this done before the siding can be put on. The plywood is on back order from the wholesaler. My husband spent a great deal of time yesterday morning trying to find a supplier but it seems that no one had it. To make matter worse my father had come by early in the morning to help my father-in-law pick up the plywood and take it out to the property. I felt so bad about tying up both of their morning. With this set, back it will effect us by delaying the siding about two to three weeks. My husband can only work on the house on the weekends and it takes some much time to get things done. Because it take some much time for him to complete what he needs to do causes us to have to wait for the next sub-contractor’s job. I know he is doing his best. I never have any doubts as far as that is concern but for some reason, this week is just so hard for me.

Everyone tells me to keep the final goal in sight but when I do that all I what to do is crawl thought the front doors of the house lay down on the living room floor and stare at the ceiling until I lost my sense. I have been told that I have a lot of patience. In this instance, I do not seem to have enough. I am tried of waking up hearing the little ones, my husband and myself with stuffed up heads because of the central heating system in my in-laws home. I am tried of repairing the carpet in the kitchen with packing tape. I am tried of living here( at my in-laws) PERIOD.

I am trying to be good and not complain about living here and its conditions but I am loosing IT. I cannot stop the tears today. I just what it to be over and I can not see the end in sight.

I am sorry that I am so negative today but with two little ones are in potty training and not doing well and the knowledge that I have to get thing ready to go to the property is just overwhelming.

We still have to deal with the electrician this weekend and I am not looking forward to that. My folks are coming out to help for yet another weekend and possibly my daughter and her boyfriend. We appreciate the help so much but sometimes it can get to be so chaotic.

Darn it I have to go and fine my Kleenex box again. It always seems to be in another room and not the one I am in. Well, must go.


Warm Regards,


RainydaysArgon

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 1:54pm



Oh rainy I am so sorry to hear about all that you are going though, I can only imagine hw tough it is for you right now, but like you said try at least to keep the final goal insight, try to think about how nice it is going to be when you have your own home to go into no inlaws no repairing carpet none of that stuff just you and your family in your own home....

I know what it can be like to have family stay with you I know that it isnt a question of not wanting them but it is just the extra work that goes into having them but just keep telling yourself it is only a week.

I am also sorry to hear about your hubby stress can be such an evil thing at times it can take over your whole being and make life hell but I hope that soon things will get better for you and your family I hope that you do not get set back for 3 weeks and I hope that maybe things will go ahead of schedual and I hope thatyou will have your new home by the middle of spring these are all of my hopes for you and wishes for you and your family.

I am sorry that I do not have alot to add or alot to make you feel comfort just know tht I am thinking about you and wishing you the very best.

Erin

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 1:58pm

((((((Honey)))))), I'm glad your mom and the doctor persuaded you to stay on your regimen.

AcornLeaves
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Registered: 11-01-2003
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 3:38pm
Thank you Erin and Barb,

There are days when it just does not look like it will ever end. There are days when I just what to throw in the towel and today is one of them. On days like today, I have to remember that I would never be happy with living anywhere else but on the property. This has been a dream in the making for over twenty years but the last five have just been hard. They say that the things that we will cherish the most are the ones that we had to work the hardest for. Well we sure have had to work hard at this one.

I general do well on the week that I receive the vitamin B shot but this week has been the exception. Not sure, why but I will just have to make it threw.

Erin, It looks like mid-summer before we maybe able to move. I think that that is the reason that I reacted so badly to news of the delay. I try not to look forward or build up any curtain time because it never comes to be. I try not to let living here in my in-laws bring me down but sometimes I just do not manage to do that.

Barb thanks you for the puff. One box in the house just does not work. I am forever searching for the box. I hear you about the meds. My own doctor has had to substitutes my supplements too occasionally.

The answer to your question about my father dealing with the electrician is no my husband and I will have to do it because my father has no prior knowledge of the wiring requirements. My husband and I will just have to tuff it out. I trust that this will be the last weekend that we will have to deal with the electrician.

Both little ones are in training pants and not diapers now and the problem is that during the week, they wear cloth-training pants but on the weekend, they wear disposable. On Monday, we start all over again. It is to hard to carry wet pants and wet clothes back home every weekend. In addition, I do not have enough clothes for them that would last the weekend. The little ones only have enough clothes to wear for maybe one and a half days before I need to wash. I am looking forward to being out at the property over the summer were they can run around without undies.

Well, I most go and get ready to go to the property. Wish I could take all of you with me, as I know that you all would just love it out there it is one of the most beautiful places on earth.

I trust that you both will have a good weekend.

Warmest Regards,

RainydaysArgon


P.S. Thought I would share this with you for a good laugh. I was about to post this post when my youngest hollered that she need to go potty but she could not get out of the toy box. When I arrived at the toy box she had already got her pants pulled down and had wet. Thank goodness the wetness was only on the back of her pants and not in the toy box. The little stinker!!!