someone help me...............

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Registered: 04-03-2003
someone help me...............
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Sun, 03-28-2004 - 9:26pm
Ok. I am 16 and I am desperate for a purpose in life. I was anorexic, now I am bulimic. I purge because I still feel guilty for overeating SO much the last few months. I have lost a lot of singing competitions, parts in plays, and I had to quit ballet because of a bad teacher who was so mean. I am SO down, I can barely crawl out of bed, and I am so sick feeling. I am terribly in love with some guy, and I am afraid I will lose him if I don't tell him I like him. SOMEONE HELP MEEEEE!:(
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Registered: 03-27-2004
Sun, 03-28-2004 - 10:59pm
First let me say that I feel for you and I am sending you a big hug. My advice is that you need to talk to your parents or a school counsler. You really need to get some help and an adult can help you with that. It is going to take alot of counsling and work to get you better. My cousin was bulemic can't spell sorry. It takes alot of love and support from family and friends to get through it. First you need to find someone to talk to so you can get some help for it. Second consintrate on getting yourself better first before consentrating on boys I know it is hard but you have to help yourself first. Get better physically and emotionally before trying to start a relationship. If you still feel the need then tell him how you feel. Take care of yourself and please I am begging you to get counsling. The CL may have some web sites for you to check out but in the meen time I will look and see what I can find for you. I will get back to you.

Lots of love and hugs comeing your way

Melissa

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Registered: 03-27-2004
Sun, 03-28-2004 - 11:11pm
Here is another message board for you where they may be able to help you and should be able to get you more web sites and help you find a counsler. http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bheating It is the board for bulimic and anorexia and they should be able to help you I will keep looking for you.
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Registered: 03-30-2003
Sun, 03-28-2004 - 11:50pm
16 is not a fun age! i am 24 now, and i struggled alot in high school with my depression. i've been in the modeling industry for the past few years and felt the huge pressure to be skinny- too skinny. when i found myself feeling guilty for being a weight that the doctors considered thin anyways as "fat" i knew it was a problem with the business. if i had done it when i was your age, i know i would have given in. with the pressures of the other girls at school and your body changing, it is too much to be in an industry that is also telling you to be skinny. i know there is a ton of pressure for dancers. i had eating problems for health reasons when i was younger and i still have problems from it- mostly "girl stuff." trust me, it is not worth it. i guarantee no matter how skinny you are, you are thinner than you see yourself.

on another note, about the boy- that's another thing i feel like i have older, wiser advide about. it always seems dire, and it will always work out. you always get another chance if it is meant to be. but live with no regrets. that's how i am, and i am always happy later. know that it comes with a built in risk- but i always think that rejection is better than wondering. the worst thing that happens is you know it isn't meant to be. the best thing is you live happily ever after! talk to the guy and don't worry about it.

you'll be fine. really.