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| Mon, 03-29-2004 - 10:39pm |
In another thread, Kat (Katrinanyc) asked "Are there minimum standards we're supposed to meet?"
| Mon, 03-29-2004 - 10:39pm |
In another thread, Kat (Katrinanyc) asked "Are there minimum standards we're supposed to meet?"
you should work so that you have enough money for food and shelter and you are lucky if you can add to that money for extras and savings. you should spend enough time from people that you are always learning from others and interacting with others. the amount of work/friends/family should be related to what makes you feel fulfilled. i know if i could choose what to do with my time, i would spend time with the people i love the most of anything i would do. but that's me! everyone is different and i think you would be surprised that whatever you think you are deficient in time wise or whatever, there are probably alot of others like that too.
I think that what it's about is to dare to do what makes you happy, and be with people that make you happy. Not to encroach on somebody else's freedom and when you are faced with choices, to make the compassionate choice.
BUMP!!!
Blessings,
co-CL of Depression Support
Kat, I tend to think of this in terms of energy.
I think ppl get upset when they dont understand something, and therefore begin to make fun of or ostracise that thing. If someone wears certain clothes that arent "fashionable", ppl often make fun. I think that is so ridiculous.
I suppose I believe that we should be able to freely live up to our own standards as long as we are not hurting other ppl. However that seems to be an issue as well, since some dont think certain things hurt anyone, and others do...
ugh its tough but I hope we can all learn (including me) to be more of ourselves and not worry about what other ppl think.
I hope this post makes sense hee hee sorry I kind of babbled
that's a very interesting topic to me.
When i started this I thought I had my thoughts all in order....
Now that i've pondered over it, its a little confusing.
Even though there is no right or wrong answer, there is always the "good" one.
For me, this would be that setting standards is of total unimportance. You should concentrate more on what makes you happy. How much do you require to be happy with yourself and your life. Most people label success by measuring income and/or rank.
Now that's what my answer would be if this were an essay. Real life? now that's a totally different story. I am harder on myself than anyone. I spend my life striving to reach the top...always always in the process of going up. I was an overachiever as a child and continue that today. I think maybe I'm addicted to the feeling of being the best. i'm very competetive and this is usally what i base my happiness on. It's not the money or the power. It's that temporary high u get when u reach you're goal, i thrive on the pats on the back and the "good jobs". but as i said, its only temporary. it's worse than drugs, because u can't stop. I've been like this since i was a kid, u can't just stop. Once everyone forgets about ur last accomplishment, u have to work toward a new one. So what do you do when standards are not an option? i can't ever let myself be happy because nothing is ever good enough? Well, i've already worked 8 hours today but now its time to go in for about 4 more and i still have to make my self go home when that runs out.
But isn't hardworking supposed to be admirable? ha.
i'm open to any good advice.
thanks ya'll,
and by the way,
somehow in all my fighting toward the top,
i always do my best to keep those around cheerful and happy,
i'll do anything to make someone's day brighter no matter how mine is looking
thanks again
Patience ;-)