another day in wonderland.....

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Registered: 03-10-2004
another day in wonderland.....
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Mon, 03-29-2004 - 11:00pm
Hello, all

Well, I made it through another day...I did pretty well all day. Went to work, went to therapy, had a great session (for a change), really felt good today. I was having a great day and I felt like I was on top of things for the first time in forever. Then...

DA,DA,DA,DUM.....

The kids came home!!!!

My one stepdaughter is so out of control. I know that this probably isn't the best topic for this board, but I don't know what to do. She was so evil today. Screaming, swearing, throwing things, calling her dad names, leaving the house in a rage, everything. I am dealing with it better than I would have a week ago, but it is so hard to live with all this stress. I hate all this struggle all the time. We end up fighting over the stupidest things. And now she is constantly borrowing my sewing kit to mend her clothes every day....for 5 days running! What the heck could she be doing to her clothes that she needs to mend them all the time? I almost wonder if it isn't some wierd drug thing. I know that sounds stupid, but she is so STRANGE lately! She was always so pleasant and sweet. She was my hope when her sister was out of control. Now they seem to have switched places. The daughter I once thought was possessed by pure evil is now so supportive of her dad and I, never breaks the rules, offers to watch the 5 yr old without asking, everything. The demon of teenagerhood seems to have taken over the other child now.

Today we had to call the police on her, she became so violent. I don't like having my little girl in the house with all this conflict, but I don't know what else to do!

If anyone has experience with teens, please give me some pointers. I am really at my wits' end. I am even getting irrational about it to the point it is scaring me

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 11:13pm
((((((Sara))))))), I'm so sorry you are going through all this and that your little girl has to be around it.
AcornLeaves
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Tue, 03-30-2004 - 9:30am


Wow that sucks about your step daughter,

I remember when I was in high school I started to throw tantrums swear I did all of the things that you are describing about your step daughter with out the police being called....

I was also using drugs and drinking ALOT I smoked pot did some cocaine lsd you name it I probably did it I was sexualy active I was not the best kid well after seing my therapist and pdoc they both told me that I was bipolar most of my teenage years were spent in a manic state with a few depressed states but more manicy than anything else.

So maybe the step daughter has some form of mental illness maybe she is takis a test that you can order that is a drug test you can use it on her sheets clothes ect and then you can see if she is on something or if this is just a phase for her I can not remember the name of the test but I have heard alot about it maybe do a search on the net for home drug tests.

I hope I was of some help to you..

I hope that your little one is not being effected by all of this kids are very sensitive to tension and stress so I am sure you are giving her lots of good positive reinforsement I will be thinking of you and good luck.

Erin

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Registered: 03-10-2004
Tue, 03-30-2004 - 10:45am
Erin and Barb

Thanx for the great posts! I will check into the at home drug tests and see how that goes. I have also decided to make an appointment at a therapist for both of my younger kids. It helped the oldest when she was acting up to learn better ways to express herself and how to make positive choices. Maybe it will help her sister. The little one I just want evaluated to see how she is adapting and dealing.

I think my stepdaughter has more situational stuff going on than MI issues. But I will definately discuss that with the therapist as an option. I just think she is going through a tough time. Her mom is, quite frankly, an aweful mom and I know there is stuff going on over there that has her upset.

I will try your suggestions and see what happens...Thanks again!

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Tue, 03-30-2004 - 11:56pm

Okay, Sara -- I posted your question to a bunch of CLs.

AcornLeaves