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not sure if he's depressed
| Wed, 03-31-2004 - 11:01am |
My bf of only a few months is going through a very difficult time right now. Financially, he's in very rough shape. And he's told me a number of times he wishes he could get away from everything and everyone. He's been divorced for about three years now and has already been to doctors for depression, which started during the divorce. He didn't feel anything worked for him and refuses to go back to a doctor. What is the best thing I can do to help him? I tell him I love him, that I will do what I can to help him. He won't take any money from me so it isn't like he's trying to sponge off of me or anything like that. He gets so down and so angry at life, and now he's having physical ailments too. His back is really bothering him, and he has teeth issues and no dental insurance. He is talking of selling his house and getting into something cheaper, and I've told him that I think that once he sells the house and doesn't have that problem hanging over him that he'll start to feel better about things. Sometimes I feel what I say falls on deaf ears. Any suggestions would be very much appreciated. Thanks!

Welcome, Iloveslz!
It seems like he has things on his mind and that some things are not resolved. Maybe he feels like he has to talk about them to someone he doesnt know like a therapist or something, maybe he would be interested in talking about it in here.
Maybe he still has anger and unresolved issues surrounding his divorce. He may still feel cheated or betrayed or something. Maybe he wanted answers that he didnt get. That doesnt mean he still loves his ex-wife, but I think some ppl dont recover from divorce for many years.
Ask him questions and maybe he will open up to you. I hope everything works out. You seem to care about him a lot and he is lucky to have a great partner like you. Take care and all the best :)