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PainHurts2
| Mon, 04-05-2004 - 3:58pm |
My husband has not been supportive of the pain in the past. He is upset because I cannot and will not have sex b/c it hurts too much. I see a therapist and he put me on the antidepressants and also gave me the painkillers. I have never abused them but they say it is too soon to have them refilled. I have to wait another week. It is frustrating to say the least. Last time I got 2 second opinions and all said that the hysterectomy was necessary. I am only 28 and I have no children. I do not want to lose my chance to be a parent and experience pregnancy. Only now is my husband being supportive. He is taking me to the doctor to be examined and wants to explain how my pain and inability to have sex effects him. We have fought about this for months now. My work is being supportive also. I got over the fear of asking off and I did it and it was good. But I am still afraid to go to the doctor. I am afraid to talk about my problem. I do not want to take medicine to feel better and I do not want surgery to feel better...I just wish it would go away. I feel it is keeping me from living my life. From being happy. I feel abnormal. Nobody my age has to go thru this...why do I? How can people have sex for pleasure? It is the most miserable thing I can put my body through. What if I can never have children? What if they tell me that I have to have to have a hysterectomy?

Hi PainHurts2,
I was visiting this board tonight and saw your post.
IVHealth Ruth Ann
Community Leader/Ask the Health Librarian
I know there are lots of women around your age who have to have hysterectomy's, and I wish there was an online support group that I could recommend you to. Maybe you could ask a cl and they would know of one?
I truly wish you all the best. Please take care of yourself. I dont know how your husband can anjoy having sex with you when he knows it causes you so much pain. HUGS.
Honey, we want to support you in any way we can.