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| Tue, 04-06-2004 - 12:29pm |
I have a question.....I obviously have some mental illness...PTSD (rape), depression, anxiety etc. But I havent been really diagnosed fully yet...still in therapy...
so here is my ?
I am a happily married woman with a 1 year old son. I love my husband and I couldnt imajine life without him. He is perfect in most ways and a great dad. I really do love him so much BUT....I find myself wanting to cheat on him. Fo rinstance, right now, there is this guy I met a few weeks ago (I have class with him) and I am REALLY attracted to him. He isnt the best looking guybut he is funny and polite and cute etc. I just really get along with him well. HE knows I am married etc. I flirt with him alot and I knwo it and he flirts back too. I even went out with him for a few drinks last week and it was really nothing, just drinks then I went home. But, now I feel almost obsessed with him. LIke I cant wait to see him again and I dont knwo if I would really even actually have sex with him or anything. I just feel horrible. There is no rason for me to even cheat on my husband, I love him and I love our son and I wouldnt want to destroy that but, it is like I cant stop myself!
Sometimes I htink I may be bi-polar and maybe this is some sort of symptom....I dont know...does anyone??
so here is my ?
I am a happily married woman with a 1 year old son. I love my husband and I couldnt imajine life without him. He is perfect in most ways and a great dad. I really do love him so much BUT....I find myself wanting to cheat on him. Fo rinstance, right now, there is this guy I met a few weeks ago (I have class with him) and I am REALLY attracted to him. He isnt the best looking guybut he is funny and polite and cute etc. I just really get along with him well. HE knows I am married etc. I flirt with him alot and I knwo it and he flirts back too. I even went out with him for a few drinks last week and it was really nothing, just drinks then I went home. But, now I feel almost obsessed with him. LIke I cant wait to see him again and I dont knwo if I would really even actually have sex with him or anything. I just feel horrible. There is no rason for me to even cheat on my husband, I love him and I love our son and I wouldnt want to destroy that but, it is like I cant stop myself!
Sometimes I htink I may be bi-polar and maybe this is some sort of symptom....I dont know...does anyone??
Sara

Just my opinion...........
Hugs Ilka
Please don't cheat on your husband.
Sarah
Sarah
You might be obsessed with this new person because you envision that he fullfills some unmet emotional needs.
You met him in a class that you're taking. Thus, you have something in common--something to talk about. You went out with him and had a few drinks. This satisfied a need for attention and conversation. You flirt with each other. This satisfies your needs for romance and excitement.
Rather than considering an affair, you ought to be considering your emotional needs and what can be done to satisfy those needs through your marriage. I recommend that you visit the marriage builders website. http://www.marriagebuilders.com/
Take what helps from the website and disregard the rest.
Since you are in therapy, please discuss this with your therapist.
I wish you the best as you try to sort through this new obsession. It could be an eye-opening experience. Maybe as you work through it, you will find new ways to connect with your DH and make your marriage even stronger.
Wishing you happiness!