still in a funk

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Registered: 09-25-2003
still in a funk
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Fri, 04-09-2004 - 12:20am
well after a nice weekend with family and friends, i have found myself back in a funk again and depressed. i talked to my doctor and counsler and uped the dosage of my meds but today i just cant get motivated to do anything and ended up staying in bed all day.

things have been pretty ok with me and the guy i recently got out of a relationship (most of y'all kno the story) we have still been talking and occasionally seeing each other on a friendly basis (tho a few days ago we ended up sleeping together and tehn the next day while i was still there he had an argument on the phone w/ his wife). tho i keep thinking about him being gone and leaving me and being with his wife. i want to be with him and when he invites me over or calls or sends an email i always answer or go over. should i stop doing this and just try and get over the horrible feeling that by ignroing him i have totally ruined things for any chance with us? i want a chance with him and am afraid taht he is sticking with her just because, they still argue and fight but yet he still wants to try and thinks that tho things are looking like they were before he left her that it'll work out.

has anyone ever had this happen, once things get better they fall back down again soon after? i've never seemed to fall back so quickly. what can i do to get myself back up and on my feet again?

sarah


Edited 4/9/2004 2:10 am ET ET by glitzekleines

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Registered: 03-25-2004
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 1:19am
I wish I had some advice. When I get down like that all I want to do is sleep. I could sleep 18 hours a day sometimes. I could offer you all of the advice that unknowing people offer me, like; you just need to get out of the house; just get up, you'll feel better, etc. But I know hearing those cliches just irritates me, and it just simply isn't that easy. If you find something that works, let me know!

Hugs and smiles

Annette

Annette, proud mommy to
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 4:13pm
I wish I had the magic wand to erase that funk...if I did, I would use it on myself too! What has helped me the most in the past is trying to take care of myself and focus on even the small things around me (like taking a bath, drinking hot chocolate, etc.)... getting out in the sunlight couldn't hurt, either, although I know it doesn't sound appealing when all you want to do is sleep.

Also, you could ask yourself if there are any reasons you fell back into this slump. It seems like your relationship with this man could be a trigger for your feelings. I know it can't be easy to love someone (or even really like them) and then wonder if your feelings are reciprocated...is that something you're worried about?

In my personal opinion, though (and I don't want to sound harsh), a relationship with a married man, even if he and his wife are having problems, is a recipe for trouble...at the very least, it can put your emotions on a roller coaster. I know that I don't know you well, and I probably don't understand the situation fully...but if I were you, I would ask myself if this relationship is a positive thing on the whole or not.

I hope you are able to overcome your feelings of depression, even for a little while...I could use some help with that myself right now! And I hope you don't feel like I am judging you...I am just trying to understand the situation you are in.

Hugs,

Rose