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| Tue, 04-13-2004 - 5:36pm |
I have some issues that I trust that some of you board members can help me with. Over the last few days, my live has been shaken not stirred but shaken and poured into a very dark glass. As some of you already know we had another brake-in at the property and now security and sanity have became an issue. It has been unanimously decided among the two families (our folks) that it is necessary for us to move out to the property to protect it. This will entails packing our belongings here at my in-laws consolidating the stuff and moving out to the property to live in a travel trailer for the remained of the building process (months). This would not be an issue if it was just two adults but we have two small children to add to the picture.
Now granted it is not winter and the weather has been okay here but could I survive living in a small travel with two small children in potty training? We have not been successful in the training as during the week, they are in cloth and on the weekends, they are in paper training pants. I use the paper pants because I would not have enough clothes for them to wear if they wet them. It is to my understanding that if we move out there we will put a washer and dyer in the pumphouse, therefore the potty training may go better.
Another issue is I can not seem to get motivated. I do accomplish some things during the day, laundry, the little ones are feed, dressed and the dishes are done but I can not seem to motivate myself to go outside. I am afraid that will happen over there and being inside the trailer would drive me nuts. However when I am at the property we do seem to be outside a great deal more then here at my in-laws, so I am confused as to if this will be an issue or not.
Because the little ones and I will be there without my husband for a great deal of time, I would like a dog or two. To let me know if some one is approaching or on the property. This issue is a big bone of contention between my husband and I. I was a pet sitter for about twelve years and I like certain breeds that my husband does not. The issue of cost for pure breeds is a real stickler with my husband. The debate continues with do we get puppies or adult dogs. In addition, another factor comes into play here, our youngest child has bad allergies and the only non-allergenic breed is poodles, we are talking the LARGE type here not the little guys. I would be afraid that the cougar would have the little dogs for a snack (sorry kind of graphic).
If we make the move it will be soon in a couple of weeks and my anxieties are so high. So I am not sleeping well right now, with the way, my husband looks and sounds right now all I do is worry about him. My husband’s and my stress and anxieties levels are so high here you could cut it with a knife. My husband caught me crying yesterday and it made things worst for him. I hear him this morning gagging and I know from the looks of the toilet that he had diarrhea again this morning. He has had diarrhea since we discovered the brake-in. (Sorry I don’t mean to be graphic but it is the truth). I do not know if I can handle much more and I am sure that my husband could not handle anything else either. I am trying to be strong and not so stressed out but I am so full of trepidation that I am not sure were to turn. So I am posting here and I trust that you can make heads or tails out of my post. Because all I can see is the haze from the dark glass that, I am viewing this scary world from.
Any and all suggestion or advice is welcomed.
Warm Regards,
RainydaysArgon

Oh, (((((((((((((Rainy))))))))))))))!
Thank you, thank you for being here for all the others and me. I know the problem is just that I am freaked out right now. I have let my anxieties get the better of me. Things have happen so fast and I think that I have just forgot to breathe. There is garages were the children could play so we have shelter.
My youngest is soon to be three in May but because of her allergies they have not been able to pin point just actually what she is allergic to. She has some contact allergies and some air born allergies. This is the reason why we have radiant floor heating instead of forced air. I developed a contact allergy to my Doberman and I fear that the littlest may suffer the same but worse.
My husband refuses to go to the doctor, his reason is that it cost too much. We pay for me to see the doctor every two week for a shot and an adjustment. We just do not have any extra money at this time. Things will be better financial for us after the house is finished and we can refinance it. However, for now we have to be so careful. I do not even have any money to buy my husband a gift for his birthday. I know he tells me that he does not want anything but he and I have not bought anything for us in almost five years. I am embarrassed some times when I go to the doctor because all of my underwear is so full of holes. In fact, one of my bras deteriorated in the doctor’s hands when he had to loosen it to give me an adjustment. Talk about embarrassed, but I have a good old doc he just make a joke out of it.
The dog situation will have to be outside dogs only because of the allergies. My heart is not set on a poodle; it is just a breed that is the most non-allergenic. We have looked into rescue shelters and the pound but because of my children’s ages and the situation of being outside with no fence, most will not allow us to adopt. It leave us with limited chooses.
The whole thing has me scared to death right now. It will all work out. But I maybe without telephone and Internet service for a while and that has me nervous. I have only this place to come and visit with people that understand this illness. I feel secure here and being without it for a long time does not sit well with me.
This thing has gotten to me so much that I can not eat right now. I know it may seem silly to some but it is a big deal to me. I think it is facing the unknown that has me worried.
Well thank you again for being here for me, I really do appreciate it.
Warmest Regards,
RainydaysArgon
(((((((((Rainy)))))))))), I do so hope that this will not mean that you have to go without phone and internet service.
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I can see where you would make that decision to be at the property.
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Im glad you posted and Im soo glad we got to chat yesterday!!
*hugs