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| Wed, 04-14-2004 - 12:41pm |
This is in reference to my other post ("AllI want is to be happy again"). I mentioned a relationship I am/was in, and how it seems to be going wayward. I have been extremely depressed the [ast few days because of it. The pain reminds me SO much of when I had to go thru my divorce and the thought it that (although it was only a few months) is absolutely unbearable to me right now.
It has been a week since I have talked to the guy. I sent have 1 text message on Thursday and 1 IM on Sunday. I didn't get a reponse to either. It's obvious that he doesn't want to talk to me for whatever reason. I get that and have stopped making excuses (he's busy, etc). Here's my problem. I am a person who cumbles in gray. I can't do gray in any manner or any situation. So right now, after not hearing from him that we are definitly over, it's killing me. I feel like I don't have the closure I need to move on.
But it's also a pride issue at this point. Not to mention I don't want to look desperate. Should I try to contact him one more time, or should I just let it go? The most he has gone w/o contact has been about 3 days. We actually broke up over that because I need more communication in a relationship. I explained this to him, we decided to not see each other anymore. He called me the next day and said he still wanted to be with me. That was only about a week or so ago. I really felt a connection with him, and I thought he did with me as well. He has never been anything but honest with me, even if he knew what he had to say would hurt me, so I'm a litle blown away that if he was breaking up with me, that he woulnd't tell me.
I'm stuck here. I really do try to listen to my instinct. But it's saying 2 different things... wait and he'll contact you *or* yes, it's over.
I need to get closure, or somehow make myself have closure to get out of this depression. I have been depressed, sad, aggitated and crying for about 4 days now and it's getting old.
Thanks for your input as always.
| Wed, 04-14-2004 - 12:53pm |
