Don't want to go home

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Registered: 07-15-2003
Don't want to go home
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Wed, 04-21-2004 - 5:01pm
I am sorry, I know this is really a little minor problem. But I so don't want to go home. My roommate came home yesterday, and I just hate it. All she does is sit in her chair and try to talk to me. I don't want to be mean, but I just moved in there for a place to live, not to become friends. We live in a trailer, so there is nowhere I can go. My computer and my exercise machine are in the living room. I have no privacy unless I go to my room, but what to do there?

I am absolutely dreading going home. Like I said, I know it's nothing big and I am lucky I have a place to live....but I am so annoyed.

I don't know what to do. I want to get my own place, but I can't afford it.

Thanks for listening.

Pamela

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Wed, 04-21-2004 - 5:11pm
Hi Pamela. Im glad you posted it on here, I think it is a problem worth putting on here! Your home is supposed to be where you are comfortable, so I know it would bother me just the same! Is there a place you can go when you dont need to be there, like the library or something? Maybe you can talk to her and say that at certain hours you need privacy? Or you could steer into a conversation about privacy and casually say that you were always the type that needed her privacy each day.

I hope it works out. Take care.
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Registered: 07-15-2003
Wed, 04-21-2004 - 5:18pm
Thanks

I said something to her right after I moved in and she was always asking me where I was going and when I would be back. She got all mad. I don't really want to say anything too much, it IS her trailer. But I am not happy. I want to look for a house to share with someone.

Pamela

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Wed, 04-21-2004 - 7:01pm

Hi Pam!


I know how frustrating that must be.....

All I can say is with some people you have to be "blunt" and I dont be mean... when she starts in you just need to say.." thanks but I had a rough day and maybe we can chat another time" ... not sure what else to say..


But you have my sympathies sweetie.. sending Hugs your way (((((((((((((Pamela))))))))))))))

*hugs

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 04-21-2004 - 7:16pm
{{{{Pamela}}}} It really isn't a minor problem since it is affecting your well being. I can completely understand your wanting to be alone. I know when I come home I like to have the house to myself for awhile----just for the down time! With warmer weather here---is sitting outside sometimes a possibility, or would she just follow you out there too? I hope something works out soon sweetie. I'm thinking of you! Debbie
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Registered: 04-11-2003
Wed, 04-21-2004 - 8:32pm
It's not a minor problem..home is supposed to be where you can relax and get "comfy"..if you are constantly feeling put upon..then it's not a good living situation.

I would personally say something to her..not in an unkind manner..but just matter of fact and hopefully she will listen this time

I wish you the best of luck,,I always hated doing the roommate thing.

(((hugs)))

~~Liv