Major Highs and a Couple Lows

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Registered: 03-10-2004
Major Highs and a Couple Lows
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Thu, 04-22-2004 - 7:05pm
Hello, everyone.

The first thing I want to tell you all is that my stepdtr and I had a great talk the other day after her therapy session. She told me that she trusts me like a friend and loves me like a mom. I had to pull the car over, I cried so hard. It was so nice to hear that I have been doing right all this time. That is the exact line I wanted to walk with the girls. I wanted them to know I wasn't trying to take the place of their mom, but I wanted them to trust me enough to tell me how things are in their lives while respecting my authority as an adult. I have learned to love them so much......It was great to get that positive feedback. The other step has been great, too. After two years, she finally came up to me the other day, gave me a hug, and told me she loved me. I feel like even though I haven't won all the battles, I am beginning to win the war.

Another great thing that has happened is the band I am in has been really encouraging me to do more songs. I love to sing, and this is so great for me. Everyone else in the band sings, so to be told that I should be learning several for myself to sing is really an honor as the junior member of the band.

I have had my lows, I have a nephew who is very ill and has been in the hospital for a couple of weeks now. I also have been struggling with my boss and the decision to leave my work. It is hard. I am passionate about my work, and love what I do. I don't get along with my boss, though, and the job will never pay a living wage.

Anyway, for the most part, things are going okay, hopefully I will be able to spend more time on the board, soon. Right now things are so busy I only come home to sleep.

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 2:27am
Congratulations, Sara!!! That's really beautiful. I'm so happy for you. What an incredible conversation to have with your stepdaughter. Yay!!!!

Can you get a similar job somewhere else, maybe for more money? I know what a hell a bad boss can make, even on a good job.

I'm saying prayers for your nephew.

Take Care,

MariaC

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 8:29am
Sara~ That was such an awesome post. The part about you and your stepdd almost had me in tears. I'm so happy for you. Sorry about what's going on at work. On the days where you feel really overwhelmed at work maybe taking a moment to go back to that conversation with your stepdd in your mind would bring a huge smile to your face. You can think to yourself " Yeah, maybe work sucks right now but things at home are going well and one out of two isn't so bad" Hope good things keep happening at home for you. (((HUGS)))~Jenn
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 10:29am
Sara,


I am so happy for you hun, I think that it is awesome that you and your stepdaughter had such a great conversation...I am glad to hear that she let you know that she loves you and that you mean more to her than you thought you did..also great news about the band I think it is great that they want to give you a chance to sing....

As for the job my boss sucks also but I like the people that I work for and I like most of my co-workers except for this one woman who is also bipolar and her and I never got along she founf out that I am bipolar an dnow thinks that her and I are best friends just becausewe suffer from a mood disorder, but she is a nasty mean person so I just ignore her..anyways sorry for going off topic if you enjoy what you do maybe look for another place to work where you can do what you are doing now...you need to do what is best for you and what makes you happy...

Once again I am so happy for you and your step daughter I hope that this great improvement continues keeping you in my thoughts...

Erin

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 12:40pm

Sara!!


Thank you soo much for sharing those Highs and good things... I know you are still having lows as we all are,, but when we can at least recognize the good times and rejoice in them for a bit; it gives us all

*hugs