His *Fling Floozy* just called MY HOUSE!

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His *Fling Floozy* just called MY HOUSE!
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 9:32pm
OMG! I am so irate I can barely see straight! While we were seperated Neal was seeing a couple of women. Well, one of them is 21 years older than he is and has developed an obsession with him I guess. She has been calling the house and blocking her number the past few weeks since I got out of the hospital. She did this when she knew he was working so it was for no reason other than to harrass me. I mean she was calling 20 and 30 times a day and hanging up!!! Neal said something to her about it and it stopped that day. Well, this floozy called my house tonight and had the nerve to ask me to get him for her!!!?!! Is she bloomin' crazy?? All I could say was he is unavailable. I was in shock. Now I am freaking out here. My stomach is in knots and I feel like I am about 1/2 sec away from losing it. I want to call her and really let her have it, but at the same time I don't want to be *like that*........but really I DO!! I have not told Neal she called. I am at the point of not knowing whether to trust him either. He says he is no longer seeing her and he tells me everyday he loves me. I am the one sharing our bed with him. He even mentioned getting married today and possibly having another child. In all honesty I want to drive to her house and pull her out by her gray hair and ring her freakin' saggy baggy turkey gobbler neck!!! HELP! I'm gonna do something I fear I am going to regret if I don't stop and calm down. UGGGHHH!

~Christy~

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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 9:48pm
Ohhhh Christy ((((((hugs))))))))))...

first off..STOP and take a huge deep breath!!!!!!!!!

I'd be screaming the house down like the big bad wolf in the three little pigs!. So the fact that you've held it together to this point is amazing!

Oh..I really don't even know what to say in regards to this situation..cause anything I say at this point would come out as a rant and a rave!! All I can say is I wanna give you a GREAT BIG ((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))

~~~Liv

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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 9:55pm
Dear Christy, I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. I think now that Neal has asked her to quit and she has not it's time to play hard ball. Call the police. She is harassing you. I think you also should tell him about this call also. I don't blame you for being a little leery about Neal's truthfullness. Try to keep yourself strong! Take some deep breaths. Scream into a pillow. Punch it too. Keep typing in your feeling here! Hugs Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 10:41pm
Thank you (((Liv))) and (((Brenda)))

I am still sick to my stomach over her call. I know this was *~*~EXACTLY~*~* what she was hoping for. I could not resist calling her though. I dialed the number and she answered the phone - I said Faith, this is Christy, and she hung up on me!!! GRRR! I hate feeling like I am being forced to play high school games with some jealous female. I am contemplating my next move. I am willing to let this drop for now but if she calls here again so help me good lord I will be on her door faster than a pig in slop. I refuse to be harrassed in my own house. I have a good amount of Irish Temper to me and where my family is concerned I have little to no tolerance for ahem.....crap like this! If I had a bow and arrow I would shoot her in her big fake boob! I'd only hit one of them though so this heffer would be lopp sided until she gets a job and some money to get it fixed! Geez, I sound awful, sorry if this rant has offended anyone.

~Christy~

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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 11:16pm

((((((Honey)))))), as I have read your posts, you have in no way violated the iVillage Terms of Service.

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Sun, 04-25-2004 - 11:16am
(((((Barbara)))))),

Thank you for taking the time to not only read my ranting but to reply. Unfortunately, I can't call the police for harrassment since she is blocking her number. It comes up on caller ID Private Caller. I know she is messing with me without a doubt, but it would be her mistake to show up here at my house. I am by no means a wishy washy push over type. She would have the battle of her life on her hands. I am sure Neal has probaby told her this. He knows I would *whup* her. :op In fact it is me who is more likely to go to her house and put a stop to this nonsense once and for all.

Im so confused I don't know who to believe or if my feelings are even valid anymore. I am in no shape to judge anything today since I couldn't sleep because I got two Private Caller hang-ups at 2am this morning. When I see that Private Caller my stomach just drops and I feel the anxiety take over. I don't know how long I can live like this. I feel a total loss of control coming on and that scares the hell out of me.

~Christy~

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Sun, 04-25-2004 - 11:42am
Hi (((Christy))),


I think you're doing really well so far, getting some of your frustration and anger out here. I'm a newbie, and I think the ladies here are just wonderful.

Christy, if you have caller id, do you have the option of blocking numbers that aren't displayed? I don't have caller id, but I know that the option is available here. Then she wouldn't be able to call your house at all unless she displayed the number.

Also (I don't know if this is an option), you could turn the phone ringer off at night. I've done that in the past, because sometimes I go to bed really early. I seem to sleep better if I know that I won't be woken up.

I hope these suggestions might help a little. Take care of yourself.

peace, love & hugs

damarisanne

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Sun, 04-25-2004 - 4:53pm
Christy Honey you have got to get an unlisted number and contact the police. If you fill out a report then at least that will be on file. Just tell them you know who it is. All this hurt and anger is not good for you. I know you would just as soon smack her as look at her, but do not harass her with phone calls or go over to her house. You could be the one who ends up in trouble. Don't play her game. Just hang up. I know this is easier said than done, but please try before your anger hurts someone (Most especially YOU!). Keep telling yourself that you are better than her. Keep writing to us instead of thinking about her. Good Luck and Let us know how you are getting along. Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Sun, 04-25-2004 - 6:31pm

Christy,

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Mon, 04-26-2004 - 12:46am
{{{{{{Christy}}}}}}

Sweetie, I am sorry I have not responded sooner but I am really not wanted here. So I will keep it brief. Don't lose it I know how hard you have worked to get where you are right now. Ignor that other women show her you are the better person. She knows she can get to you don't let her have that power.

Remember One day at a time, One step at a time.

I hope things get better for you and that you can find some peace in your life.

Take care of yourself {{{{{{Christy}}}}}}

Hugs,

Cathy

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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 7:28am
(((((Cathy)))))),

Hi honey! How have you been? Isn't it funny we always reconnect no matter how long it has been through this board? I would love to know what all has been going on with you. Please email me at aintmizzbehaving@yahoo.com

Love and Hugs,

Christy