HELP!! Boyfriend depressed

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Registered: 04-26-2004
HELP!! Boyfriend depressed
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Mon, 04-26-2004 - 6:58pm
My ex boyfriend and I have been reconciling and things were going really well. We just saw each other recently and although it was clear that he was falling into a depression we had a great time. He was seriously thinking of moving back to Providence from DC. A few weeks after that he called hysterical saying that he couldn't talk to me anymore and then saying that he couldn't bare losing me. The next day he called and said he couldn't talk to me anymore but that we could write letters. Then, over the following two days I received voicemails from him saying that he was very sorry and that he's in the middle of a clinical depression and he needs to get help and I'm the most wonderful thing in his life and he needs me. So we talked for about a week non-stop and then he called on my birthday and I was upset and he asked if I wanted him to fly up and see me and I said that he shouldn't because he had to work but that I couldn't wait for he and I to celebrate my birthday together. I then received a very sweet birthday message from him and when I talked to him after that he sounded really down and said he had to go eat and that he'd call tomarrow. That was two weeks ago and I haven't heard from him since. I have left numerous voicemails expressing my worry and he hasn't returned my calls. He has his phone off and none of his friends have heard from him either, actually two of them have but they said he sounded really strange and just wanted to let them know he's ok but they couldn't engage him in conversation and he hasn't returned their calls since. I'm upset that he's not returning my calls and I'm worried for him. I'm also upset that he called two of his friends that he's not very close to in response to my own calls. What is going on? Everyone says this erratic and seclusive behavior is very indicitive of major clinical depression. Will I ever hear from him again? What should I do? HELP!!! I'm going crazy!!!



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Registered: 03-22-2003
Mon, 04-26-2004 - 9:52pm

Hi Daisy!


Im soo sorry to hear about all of this and I wish I had a magic wand or just the right words to help...


I guess if you are really that worried and none of his friends (that you know of )have heard from him either ,, is it possible for you to call his family and check in?

*hugs