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| Mon, 04-26-2004 - 7:16pm |
Work is rough right now, my boss is going through a personally tough time and is taking it out on us at work. I understand she's having a tough time, but I am a little upset she is making my life hard because of it.
The kids are great, they are all behaving for the most part. Today is the younger steps birthday. She is so excited. Her mom is taking her out to dinner at McDonalds tonight. I think it's good that her mom is doing something with her, but I wish she would do something more special than a dollar menu McChicken.
I am frustrated with the hubby. right now it feels like he is being so selfish. I spend so much of my time being there for him and the kids, and I feel like he just expects me to do it all. He really doesn't seem to understand that the girls need to know their dad has time for them, too. I know he loves them. The fact that he hasn't given up on them through everything they have done over the last couple of years proves that. I have invited him to therapy sessions, but he refuses to go. That bothers me a lot, because if I want him to come, I think he should respect that enough to go. But he says there is no point in him going, because I should be able to talk to him about anything. I can, but it doesn't mean he listens.
Thanks for all the support, you are all the greatest!

Take care of yourself,
Ellen
((((((Sara)))))), with the worry about the test results on top of everything else I can only imagine what it must have been like in the past two weeks!
But about getting your husband to go into a few sessions with you.....when I approached my husband about it too, he didn't want to go either. But we had a talk about it, I explained why my therapist wanted to see him, etc. how it would help her understand my situation better, therfore she could help me better. etc. etc.
I finally got him to go for a session and my therapist told both of us that he didn't need to come any more. She had a pretty good picture of our life. It was the greatest gift he ever gave me. And also the worse......cause she said from what she saw in my husband- my problems were MINE not HIS. So we got working on me.........have come a long ways, but still have a long ways to go too.
Hope you have success in getting him to go just for one, maybe he will agree to just one. And he will find out the sessions aren't what he is thinking. And then agree to more if neccessary.
All the luck to you.............