I need your support

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Registered: 06-18-2003
I need your support
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 7:22am
I have been here before and I was coming back to you all a few weeks ago about everything and then I had a blow in my life that has shut me down.

My husband passed away on the 3rd of this month. He was only 47 and had a heart attack at work and died instantly. I, we, were unprepaired for this and so now I am over whelmed with paper work, trying to get the death cer., and taking care of all the things that have to be done. We still owe on the house, had the car paid off, but all the bills are now coming due again and there is no $ to cover them.

I don't sleep at night very well, and I can't eat much either. I was on a diet and had lost 40 lbs before he left me but now I have lost another 10 and everyone is yelling at me....I want it all to stop !!!!

I feel like I have no control over things, I don't think well, and I wander around here trying to figure things out.

I am going to the Dr's this am to see if there is anything that he can give me for all of this to help me get thru this...but it has to be done fast as I lose the insurance at midnight tomorrow night !!!!

Sorry that this is long...I just needed to get some of it out and see if I am losing it or if this is the process in all this.... Please help me

Sheryl

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Registered: 03-09-2004
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:00am
My heart goes out to you. I wish I could say I understand, but I can't. But I do know that what you are going thru is part of the grieving process. I don't know what state you live in, but once you get to a point where you feel like you can get up and do something, check in on COBRA insurance from your husband's insurance or State insurance.

I know you have a lot to process right now, but we are all here for you.

LOL,

Chris


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Mom to furangel, Chelse
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Registered: 01-26-2004
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 10:08am

(((((((Sheryl))))))), you have been through a tremendous shock!

AcornLeaves
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 6:58pm
Sheryl, I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I knew what to say. Stay here and talk to us, we are here to listen. I am sure that there is a loss board here as well. I have been to the job support board...to help you with your career. It will take time, but someday you will get on your feet. Have patience with yourself. You can't do everything at once. You have to take things one day at a time. It is the only way that you can live. Try not to swallow things whole. Try to take little tiny tiny steps.

I am not doing very well, but I wanted to post some words of support.

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.

Take care,

Lisa-)

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 8:32pm

There are two boards here that can help people deal with their grief.

AcornLeaves
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Registered: 05-14-2003
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 8:41pm

Sheryl,


I'm new to here and very sorry hear about your husband and your latest episode.

~Jessica