feeling useless

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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 10:22am
Just one of those dreary days! It is raining outside and what a crappy day.

I worked my butt off yesterday outside to let off some steam. For what? No "thanks honey for the help" - no "looks great honey" - nada nothing! I was out there for 6 HOURS! On top of that, I cleaned the house spotless as my daughter decided to get up at 5 am. Did 5 loads of laundry and had supper on the table only for my husband to decide to go play golf! And of course, lets not forget I had to go to my parents to straighten out their meds and get them ready for the day! Just feeling like I'm ready to explode today! And feeling quite useless around this house! Is it just me or does anybody else go thru this! I was so tired last night I forgot to take my meds which probably isn't helping today, but I'll chug thru once again! At least I got my "Survivor", "Friends", and "ER" fix last night!

Chris


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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 10:43am
Hi ((((Chris)))),

Wow, if I didn't know better I would say you just described a day in my life! My SO used to be the same way about neglecting to notice or acknowledge the hard work I put into the house and the kids. I felt like no matter what I did it wasn't *enough*.

You know what though? Sometimes the only person that can fill that sense of accomplishment is you. I always hated *patting* myself on the back because I felt like I was bragging or God Forbid - asking for some sort of approval! In the end though that is what I needed. I needed to ask for it in order to get it. I started to make mention of exactly what I had done that I was proud of during the day. Once I started to mention it SO took the hint that he was being beat over the head with and finally he began to notice things too.

Maybe you can try that? Just remember though that even if he doesn't get the hint it doesn't lessen your accomplishments. Especially when you are in the throws of depression -just getting out of bed can be a challenge. I have a list a mile long of things to do today and I am putting them all off. So, if you want to send me some of that positive get up and go attitude I would greatly appreciate it. I hope your day gets better honey. I think you did terrific for what it's worth!

Love and Hugs,

~Christy~

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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 2:47pm
Thank you so very much! You helped my day along and maybe my appreciation for you can help yours along. I know I accomplished alot and I'm proud of myself for getting up and doing it. Just wish others could just notice just once in a while! You know!!!!!!!! So maybe if we both get up today off our duffs and walk outside or even hang up clothes it will motivate us huh?

Chris


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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 3:18pm
Motivation?? Yikes, I hate that word. It is not in my vocabulary.....lol. Ok, I'll make you a deal: You go hang clothes and I will go clean the bathrooms and start my laundry.

Im glad I could make you feel better and yes I know that a little acknowledgment can mean the world. Sometimes it doesn't come from where you really want it to come from but keep trying and beating him over the head with hints (or other things if they are handy and you are sure not to get caught.....lol *wink*).

Ok, off to the bathrooms with lysol and clorox in hand. (and avoiding the phone with Neal's inevitable screaming mad call because I text messaged his floozy...LMAO)

Hi Ho Hi Ho it's off to work *we* go.

Take it easy sweetie and if it gets to bad put itching powder in his boxers.;o)

Love and Hugs,

~Christy~

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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 4:33pm
Great idea on the itching powder!!!!!!!!!!!! Hey, I hung up my clothes, did you do your bathroom? Guess I'll do mine. YUK! I hate that job! Tag, you're it! ha ha ha

LOL,

Chris


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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 4:42pm
Whoohoo! I got the bathroom and the vanity area done (ok, so I havent done the guest bath but no one ever uses that one - I'm gonna cheat and wipe the counter and spray it with lysol). I am off to throw a load (albeit my first) of laundry in. I can't let you out do me now! :o) I may even clean the glass tables and start the dishwasher. Top that smartie pants!

ROFL,

~Christy~

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Sat, 05-01-2004 - 10:13am
Okay, okay already! Got you motivated, didn't I! I only got one bathroom done too! Oh well, it's the weekend now so who cares. ha ha! I did finish laundry too, although I haven't put it up yet. Got a gigantic headache this morning! Maybe it's from all the work yesterday. ha ha

Have a wonderful weekend!

Chris


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