I just can't take it anymore....

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I just can't take it anymore....
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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 12:13pm
I have too much going on, dealing with too many things and no energy to do it. I dread waking up in the morning. DH and I don't get along, he is a real smartass, and thinks I'm a bitch. I work full time and commute 2-3 hours a day to work. And I have a house and 3 girls under the age of 6. Now we have the opportunity of selling the house, and move out of the city and for me to stay home. We would be able to pay everything off, including the cars. He doesn't wanna do it because it would mean HE would have to drive 2-3 hours TWICE a week. So I 'm stuck in this screwed up life with no relief ahead. God what was I thinking when I had the kids? Not a good choice. I just can't deal with it anymore................

Ilka



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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 12:20pm
Sending you hugs {{{{{Ilka}}}}}

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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 1:59pm
(((((((ilka)))))),

I don't really know what to say to you that can make things any better. Maybe you can try again to talk to your H and explain more clearly how this move would benifit all of you. I know that for myself I tend to get defensive when I try discussing things with my SO and it looks like they aren't going my way. I don't know if this is true for you as well but it was just a thought. I wish you luck and hope things work out the way you want with this.

Love and Hugs,

~Christy~

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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 8:05pm

Ilka hun,,, its OK to stand up for what YOU want too sweetie!


Marriage is about partnership and meeting half way on things.. At the very least you need to sit down with him and talk about the pros and cons of this..


Its not for me to say how your marriage should be hun but think about putting YOU first at least sometimes! because married or not you are still a person deserving of being loved and respected.


sending lots of caring thoughts!!

*hugs

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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 8:38pm
I'm sorry, Ilka...I mainly wanted to let you know that I've been thinking of you and hoping that things will improve. I know that it seems hopeless, but maybe after a while other options will begin to appear. Have you ever done couples counseling? (I'm sorry if I've forgotten)...maybe that could help the communication between you and your DH. It does seem unfair that you bear the brunt of the commuting, taking care of the children, etc...I wish he could be more helpful and understanding!

Sending hugs,

Rose