I could just scream today!!!!

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Registered: 08-22-2003
I could just scream today!!!!
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Sun, 05-02-2004 - 5:34pm
I am so frustrated and becoming more and more depressed as this day is going on. First of all my oldest is dancing in a competition two hours from home. I wanted to go along to watch her dance, but my mother wouldn't watch my other kids because she is helping my sister pack (she is moving). What makes me so mad is that my mom said they would be in the way, yet yesterday I had so much going on but when my sister called crying she needed someone to take her kids I did. I had to deal with my seven and then my niece and nephew - even had to take them shopping with me which isn't an easy task as my nephew always wants the world and then some. So my husband drove our daughter and I had to stay home and clean, do laundry, pack for our vacation that is coming up this weekend, and just get everything done.

Well I am cleaning and doing laundry and working hard and my bil came over this morning. He took several of my kids out for breakfast which was nice, but then he comes back and sitso n his behind expecting me to entertain him. I had my kitchen all cleaned and was folding laundry and decided in between the loads I would watch a movie. Well I had about 8 loads done and folded (normally I fold them and pile them in the family room along the wall sorted by child and then when I am done have the kids put their laundry away). Well, I come to my kitchen to find my bil making himself food - bean burritos. Well there is shredded cheese on my floor and counters, beans on the counter and do you think he would clean it up? I wanted to cry!!!!! Ever try sweeping shredded cheese??? So then I clean that up and go to fold more laundry - come down and he piled his dirty dishes on the counter - clean that up and then sil comes over with her son. He runs to the family room and starts horsing around. I tell him and sil that he needs to stay out of my laundry (now this room is huge so he can easily stay out of my laundry), but he doesn't listen. He ends up hitting my three year old in the face with his foot, she is screaming and has a bloody lip. Sil says nothing - I yelled at him to stop - she doesn't like it. I go down to check on my laundry and I hear her yell, and then she says they are leaving right away. Well her son ran through the laundry and started tossing it everywhere and do you think she would refold it, so now I have to refold 10 loads by this time (I have two washers and two dryers so I get double the loads done at once - perk to having a large family LOL).

So I fold all the laundry and ask my son if he will watch his sisters so I can run to McDonald's to get food for supper as I am just too down and tired to cook and bil says "well I thought I was taking him with me at 4 p.m. when my sister comes?" Well I said "couldn't you just wait the ten minutes?" He complains and of course I feel bad because ds is such a good kid and this is a chance for him to work and make money which he loves doing. Well, here I sit and it is 4:35 and sil still hasn't come so I could have gotten McDonald's and been back since it is just up the street.

I have to plan our meals for the week, go grocery shopping, finish the laundry, mop my floors, finish packing for our vacation (not easy when you are packing for 9 people for 8 days!), and prepare for work for tomorrow. I am so down I just want to cry!!!!! Dh called and I told him what was going on and he felt horrible, but there is little he can do since he is two hours away and our dd isn't finished.

Chelle -
"This too shall pass"and "No man is worth your tears, and the one that is will NEVER make you cry."


Mommy with enough love in her heart for her seven kidlets, dh, and then some :o)

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Registered: 05-14-2003
Sun, 05-02-2004 - 10:11pm

Chelle,


Why do you just do the things again when people mess them up after you clean them, it looks like you still from the old school.

~Jessica
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Registered: 03-22-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 6:24am

Hi hun!


mornings are hard for me to write long posts these days but I wanted to stop in and give you a HUG!


The saying "no one can take advantage of you without your permission" is soo true and hopefully in time you will learn to stand up for yourself.

*hugs             

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 9:31am
Normally Jessica I wouldn't have done the cleaning again, but we are preparing to leave for a week's vacation on Friday. With seven kids to pack for and plan and all I wanted to make sure the house was clean over the weekend so that I could work all week long and not worry about finishing everything in the evenings.

So normally I am not of the old school, and normally my entire family helps except my bil who sits on his rear doing just about nothing to help out around here and coming several times a week. I talked to dh about it last night and told him I can't take it anymore.

Chelle -
"This too shall pass"and "No man is worth your tears, and the one that is will NEVER make you cry."


Mommy with enough love in her heart for her seven kidlets, dh, and then some :o)

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Registered: 05-14-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 12:00pm

Chelle,


Okay.

~Jessica