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low self esteem
| Tue, 05-04-2004 - 9:26am |
I was in an abusive relationship.....more mental then anything. I got out and gotten married to a wonderful man since then..... just one problem. I never got counciling for what I went through. now its been coming back to haunt me. I've gotten sencitive about everything. If I make a simple mistake, I put myself down.... ect. I've found that I cant be by myself without me beating myself up emotionally. I get into bouts of depression because of it. I've tried to find a place that offers free counciling for mental abuse, but cant find any. Anyone have any ideas?

Hello and welcome.....
You mentioned that you went through mental abuse was it in the way of someone putting you down calling you nasty things making you feel unwiothy? the reason I ask is to not drudge up old bad feeling but to get a better understanding of things for you that way I do not say the wrong thing...
I know what it is like to have such a low self esteem I am proof of the understanding...I do or shall say did alot of bad things to myself because I was striving so hard and still am to be perfect for who I dont know but I do know that it was not for me because no matter what I did I felt and still feel that it isnt good enough I ahev no idea who I am trying to be better for but I know that it isnt for myself ...I starved myself vomited emotionally eating what I consider a large amount of food but in reality it isnt a lot of food at all...I cut myself until I coul not move my arm both my arms, I took diet pills laxatives obsessivly worked out weighed in everyday I stived so hard to be perfect in every aspect of my being that I forgot who I was what I wanted , I convinced myself that I was ugly that I was fat that I was worthless that it became normal for me to walk with my head down to hide my face to believe that what everyone told me was a lie...
the reason I am telling you all this is to let you know that you are not alone in what you are feeling but you are worht it not because you have someone on your side each night to tell you that you are loved but because you deserve oto be happy to be loved to love yourself first and foremost....
You may want to try catholic charities I have heard great things about them there are also hotlines that you can call to get in touch with soeone on a sliding scale basis it cant hurt to look into those things..
I wish you the best of luck on this journy that you are on..
Erin
hugs...we're here for you.
Welcome hun!
Im glad you want to get help again and that you recognize that you are having a hard time.. that is a big step.. I would suggest you call the local social service agency in your area, I know that in these times most every place has programs and help for those that been abused even if its just mental.
*hugs
They are not real...your issues...the man who made you feel this way is wrong....you are wonderful and smart. I can tell. I am very intuitive. You say you have a wonderful husband. He knows how awesome you are too.
I was in an abusive relationship. I looked in the mirror and did not see the woman my parents raised. I grew up in an incredibly supportive home. It was then that I started to realize that the man who made me feel like nothing was full of garbage.
The book will teach you strategies to counter act that garbage interfering with your life.
In the meantime say theses things:
I am gorgeous, inside and out.
I have a successful marriage.
I am loved.
I am attractive and fun.
I am an interesting and intelligent woman.
How does all that sounds? Sounds true to me. *wink*
Welcome to the board.
Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.
Take care,
Lisa-)
Take care,
Lisa-)