Just need to Vent

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Registered: 05-27-2003
Just need to Vent
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Wed, 05-05-2004 - 1:05pm
Ok, so I IMed a friend of mine today. I noticed something that someone sent me, and although it was gossipy I forwarded it to this friend of mine to take notice of. Her response "You always read into everything."

Now granted, this is not a friend I'm particular enamored of. In fact most times she annoys the everloving **** out of me. But I deal with it, because we run in the same circle and it would just make things too complicated otherwise. So, I wrote her back that it was just an observation... and she logged off about 30 minutes later. Now we're at work so generally we're on IM all day. (not necessarily talking, but on) So it's odd for her to log off in the middle of the day. So yes, if I wasn't reading into anything before, I sure as hell was going to read into that subtle maneuver. What really irks me is that this girl thinks she knows me. And she thinks she has the ability to use my personality against me. And the fact is that she doesn't know me. (A fight we got into several years ago proved that, she wasn't happy about it) I don't tell her half of what I'm thinking.

Quite frankly she's getting to be a self-righteous, hypocrite. (well, I guess she always was.) And the fact that she's going to sit there and imply that even if I read into things, that it's wrong or bad or anything else. i have a few expletives that I would love to share with her right now. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. I wish I could tell her off. I wish I could just sit there and call her every name in the book. I wish I could call her out and reveal her flaws to herself and leave her in a weeping sorrowful mess on the floor.

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Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: pongo26
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 1:34pm

Hi Pongo!


Glad you got to vent here and I hope it helped you feel alittle better.. they sometimes say that Depression is anger without the emotion so the fact that you can express the anger at her rather then turn it inward is good.. Now maybe you can find a way to respectfully share your feelings directly with her too.


Sending lots of HUGS!!

*hugs

*hugs             

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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: pongo26
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 1:54pm
Hi Pongo,

Caly has some good advice for you. I don't have any words of wisdome or much insight to share with you unfortunately. I find myself having those same *ring their neck* type of thoughts. My anger is not easily bottled up and I have some issues with holding my tongue. It makes it even worse when the person your angry with is a co-worker. Trying to maintain professionalism when all you want to do is throw a tantrum is most difficult.

Girl, just take it in stride and don't play her game. The move she made was an obvious one meant to "give you a hint" so just play it off like nothing happened at all. If she sees she got to you it will be her with the smirk walking away - you know, the whole bigger person routine. People who criticize others are looking for someone to look down upon because they are not happy with themselves.

So, grab a Latte (Dunking Donuts Iced Caramel Latte.....yum!) and keep your cool. You know you are smarter than she is.

Love and Hugs,

~Christy~