Does anybody else have this issue?

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Registered: 01-27-2004
Does anybody else have this issue?
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Sat, 05-22-2004 - 12:58pm
I know we've probably all encountered that people don't want to hear about our depression, or the things that bring us down.

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 2:40pm




Hi sweetie!


First off, I know who the Clancy Bros are and I love them too.. Im a fan of irish music alot.. so know that you are not alone there!


I guess for me, I have been lucky enough to find a few different friends who each enjoy something different that I do, so it works..

*hugs             

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 4:32pm
When I love something, I get REALLY into it. Passionate, you might say. Others might say a bit obsessive. I rarely find people who share the same interests as me. Or if they do, they probably don't feel as strongly about it as I do. An example is my favorite musician, Sting. I've loved Sting since I was 17, the first time I saw him in concert. I've seen him in concert 8 times in the past 15 years. I've had some friends who like him OK. Occasionally, someone would go to a concert with me. I've gone to a Sting concert alone before and I had a fabulous time. I had one boss in retail who liked Sting as much as I did. We worked in a Christmas store and were supposed to play Christmas music all day. Instead we played Sting CDs! It was so fun. He was the only person as I ever knew who loved Sting as much as I did, but he loved the old Police stuff mostly. I like Sting's new stuff. So even that wasn't an exact fit.

As for other interests, now that I'm taking psychology classes, I have an outlet for that passion. Plus, coming here is wonderful for that interest, part of my life.

I also have a few TV shows that I've been obsessive about. The main ones are Buffy and Angel. I finally went online to find more information about them. That's how I tapped into this whole community of Buffy/Angel fans. I regularly post on a board about the shows. I also have one Buffy friend that I met on a different board who I write every couple of days. Sometimes we talk about our general lives, but we don't really relate to each other except where Buffy stuff is concerned. It's fun to have someone to talk to about that because it's such a well-written show. I was an English major and, as such, love to analyze dialogue, etc. So it's a natural fit.

I have more online friends than I have regular friends.

You might try Irish festivals or clubs. Just like there are Scottish Highland festivals, I'm sure there are Irish things. My ex-husband was Irish and was SO into celtic music. He learned to play the Celtic harp and some other Celtic instrument whose name I can't remember. We did the Irish Cailey dance at our wedding, as well as had Irish flutes and a harpist. It was his dream wedding come true. I enjoyed Irish music when I was married, though I don't really listen to it now. I've also worked in two different New Age bookstores. I played tons of Celtic music in those. I like it better than the Native American music that is also considered "New Age Music." My ex loved Clannad. I thought they were OK, but I'm a much bigger fan of Enya, the sister of Moire Brennan, Clannad's lead singer. Clannad is more traditional Celtic than Enya, as you probably know. I have some Irish blood, but more Scottish. My great-grandmother and her sister were professional Scottish dancers, which I think is really cool. They traveled around the US in a show of Scottish dance and song.

Have you checked out online message boards, or local clubs? I think that it's hard to find people with similar interests if you have a really unique interest. But if you look in the field of that interest, you can find people who will relate.

I think a lot of people have that same problem. That's why boards like this are so incredible. We can connect with people from all over the world who share our interests. Look up "Irish Music" message boards on a search engine. You will probably find something you like.

Take Care,

MariaC