Having closure on past relationship
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Having closure on past relationship
| Mon, 05-31-2004 - 3:47pm |
Hey there, I have a question for you all. I was wondering..if you were in a relationship about 5 years ago and it only lasted a bit over a month, and you knew the person for a total of about 3 months, which ended by you stopping taking his calls altogether for personal reasons, and the person never knew why you stopped taking his calls but the relationship really touched your life, and you want to find his address so you can write to him and explain as well as apologize despite the fact that it is ancient history, would you find his address and write to him for closure?
As you have probably guessed, I am in this situation where I have never forgotten this person and would like to write to him because I still regret the way I ended the relationship. I just want to apologize and have some kind of closure because I dont think I have ever had closure on it despite the fact that it was a brief relationship. Thanks for your input!

I would think about the situation before you go jumping into it...
like if he has a girlfriend or is married stuff like that because you do not want to cause a prolem for him on the home front like one of the other posters said...
As for closure I am also all for it sometimes we need to do that in order to move onwith our lives I do it now often but when something is really nagging me....but I never do it to try to get back together with someone I made that mistake once with my sons father and boy did it blow up in my face he basically told me that I will always have a small place in his heart because of our son but I know that space doesnt exist anymore and I value his friendship it took me a long time to be able to talk with him again after that happened out of me being embarrased but anyways...
I just did the colure thing yesterday one of the guys I dated for like 3 years never a committment or anything just dating well I finally gave up waiting for him and moved on with my life he professed that he loved me ect..but it was too late we became friends and he got mad at me and I didnt know why so I emailed him yesterday an he explained why he was mad and I feel so much better I can close that door now he could not handel being my friend and thats okay...
So ya I would do it but email him like the other poster said do not send hima letter email is best and I wish you the best with this keep us posted on what you do..
Erin
Hope I can help and I'm here for you!
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Chris
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