We had a bad night

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Registered: 04-03-2003
We had a bad night
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 8:11am
Last night was my fiances graduation from a local leadership class. He suffers from depression and seemed to be doing well the past couple days until last night. Everyone was saying how wonderful he was as was I. He is the kindest most generous person I know. After we got home he started saying how he doesn't derserve any of it and he has them all fooled. He says he devotes all of his time to his business while neglecting me. He said that if he knew he would get this bad he would have never brought me into this world, his world. He says he loves me to death but also said that sometimes love isn't enough. He seems so happy when he's out with his friends but when he's home it's a different story. Maybe it is just me and not the depression? He just always finds himself so unworthy of any accolades or attention. He said that he doesn't spend much time with his son because he doesn't want him to be like his dad. That broke my heart. I found a psychologist for him but he says he wants to deal with it on his own. I don't know what else to do. I love him so much. He said we don't even act like a couple anymore. It all feels so strange. We're both scared. He's glad I've stayed with him and said he's ruined all the other relationships in his life, and has driven away friends and family. They just got tired of him he says. Please help. I just got the depression fallout book in the mail and I'm going to read it and try to get him to read it as well. I just wish he would see the therapist - maybe I can get him to come with me so we can do a couples session?
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 12:19pm

((((((((((((((((((((((((((Sweetie)))))))))))))))))))))))))


I know how hard it can be when you see someone you think is special and they can't accept the accolades and compliments.

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Registered: 06-03-2004
Fri, 06-04-2004 - 12:39pm
Whew, you are in a tough spot. Wish I had more advice to give you. If he is willing to go to couples counseling, then it's worth a try.

Also, this website might be helpful

http://www.maledepression.com/