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No longer in love?
| Sun, 06-06-2004 - 5:47pm |
Last night my depressed fiance was saying that if I ever found someone else that he would smile, give me his blessing, go home and cry his eyes out, then love me for the rest of his life even if he lived the next 800 years. He's frequently said he doesn't derserve me etc. Today he said he's no longer in love with me. Things have been strained the past month but I thought we were working on things. I have several communication books I was reading. He said last week that he was happy with how our communication has improved. He mentioned a fading spark but discussed that happens in all long term relationships. Why did he fall in love with me in the first place? He doesn't know. Why is he no longer in love with me? He doesn't know. Can we fix it? He doesn't think so. He isn't happy with himself and doesn't want to be in this world. What do I do? I love him and can't imagine my life without him. He says he can't make me happy because he doesn't love me as much as I love him.

Gosh I dont even kow what to really say to what you just wrote....
Do you think that maybe this is all jsut his depression talking? I know that when I was at my lowest of lows I told the man I was dating that I hated him just so he would walk away from me and well it worked and now I wish I handeled it a bit differently but that is in the past...
I kow that you love this man it is very obvious and I am sure that he loves you and maybe he just doesnt want you to sink low with him maybe that is just his way of protecting you or something...just my opinion...
I wish that I could help you out more with this and I am sure that the other ladies here will have some great insight to share with my...my advice is that if you want to stay with your fiance do it but make sure that you are okay with you first, but this decision is ultimatly up to you first...just take care of you okay...
Erin