Just need someone to listen

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Just need someone to listen
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Wed, 06-16-2004 - 3:31am
I don't think that I am depressed but I am definitely on the path to it. A little background. I got pregnant at 16. By the time I was 18 I was married with 2 kids. My marriage early on was bad. I graduated from high school on time and I managed to go to college. Well now almost 10 years later I have three children and my marriage is a whole lot better. But one thing we have always had problems with is money. I was raised with the notion that an education is always the best thing. With an education your financial life would be a whole lot better. Well I have my degree and 6 months later I can not find a job. I feel so cheated. I feel like a loser and I am so tired of waitng for my day to come. I do realize that I have made alot a great accomplishments for someone in my position, but it is not enough. I want to work and make my own money. I am tired of barely making it. I have a bachelors degree and I cant get a job. I am so tired and I feel like whats the point. I have made mistakes in the past but who hasnt. I am a good person. But what do I get from it? Nothing. Well I cant say nothing I have my family. Which I love more than anything. But I need to be more than someones mom or wife. I dont know. Thanks for listening.
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 9:12am

Welcome to the board, babiecakes38.


Isn't it frustrating to accomplish something and then the reward just doesn't happen like we expect,*sigh!!!!!

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Registered: 03-10-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 1:04pm
babiecakes38

I can so relate to money and the lack of it causing feelings of depression. It is so frustrating to go to school and then still not be able to make things work. I know I keep telling myself that money isn't everything, but the lack of it can sure make you feel like it is. Just keep your chin up. You have made yourself a desirable employee by going to school, so someone is sure to want you to work for them. It is just a matter of being in the right place at the right time with the right amount of persistance. Good luck with your job hunting!!!

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Sun, 06-20-2004 - 6:49pm
I don't know where you live, but I know that in general this has been a bad time to get a job. However, the job market is starting to move forward. Five years ago was a much better time for entering the job market. I hear that you want to have your career in position. You know that you have accomplished a lot. If you can handle turning a bad marriage good while raising three children, you can accomplish just about anything. Keep the faith. Seach out jobs wherever you can. It sometimes takes doing many different things. Have you read any books on looking for jobs? How about Monster.com? How is your resume? Often it takes being persistent, bringing our resume into a company in person and introducing yourself to the person who hires (mailed or faxed in resumes often are too impersonal and get ignored).

I got my BA and pretty much worked menial jobs for about four years. I did some post-graduate work during that time. But I took on editing work wherever I could, even doing it for free or for trade for friends and relatives. This enabled me to build my resume and create work samples. Then I did a small project for a friend that turned into a full-time job. Now I'm an author, though not nearly where I want to be yet. I used to think I would never be able to work in the field of writing since it's so competitive. Take whatever you can get that's remotely related to the field you want to work in. It builds your experience. With motherhood you are either a mother or not a mother. But careers often take incremental change.

Keep the faith. You are doing this as much for your family as you are doing it for you. You have done so much. Work is much easier than motherhood! Trust me on that one.

Good Luck,

MariaC

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Registered: 07-15-2003
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 7:01pm
Hi Babiecakes!!

lol, that feels weird to type that, as it is usually something you would say to your SO or something!!

Anyway, I know how that feels. I have nothing close to a bachelors degree, but I know when I was done school, I had to take just any job until I could find one that actually paid decent money.

Keep your head up, and keep searching. Something great will come along.

Pamela

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