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| Fri, 06-25-2004 - 12:30pm |
Hi, I am new to this board, but not depression. I only recently started taking medication for it, and even then, I recently have been off of it for two weeks. I can tell a difference in my mood, of course. I have no patience for my 2 year old, I am grumpy, and life in general sucks. But on a brighter note, I took one of my pills today, so maybe I will get to feeling better soon. My dilemma is this. I am 23 years old with a 2 year old and a husband that I have been with for 7 years. Yes, 7 years. I am getting really frustrated at the fact that I never want to have sex with him. Is that not bizarre? I have never really been that into sex, but I am getting annoyed because I am 23 and would love to have more sex. I feel guilty because my husband makes me feel like a freak for not wanting to do it. But, here comes the confusing part, I have a sex drive. Now, as not to get too graphic....I think some of you ladies will get my point here. Wink, wink, nudge nudge. So, is this my depression? I don't know, and I am too shy to really discuss this with anyone. Can anyone help? I really could use it. I mean, it is like I close up when he wants to be intimate. I don't understand it. I could really use the help on this one. I have tried the meds and they didn't up my drive either. I feel like I am going to be stuck like this forever. HELP!!!!!

Could it be that maybe you are not sexually attracted to your husband? not implying anything at all...I dont know about your meds I do not take antidepressants so I do not know much about them...I know some have sexual side effects but I would talk with your OBGYN about it that is what they are there for....it could be something medically going on in that area but I would get out of the shy thing and talk with the OBGYN that way you can figure out what is going on with you...
That is all I really have to offer up to you at this point I am sure the other ladies will have more info to give to you
Good luck
Erin
I have a couple of thoughts for you, one is that the meds can take anywhere from 2 -6 weeks to totally take effect, and most of them need to build up a reserve in your body before they are the best help they can be.
Communication is key. When I finally was able to tell him everything he was hurt but I needed to stop blaming myself. I now realize that he can't help the job he has, that I can't change the past ,and that he does care but didn't know how to cope with my illness. We sat down and decided that I would be in control of when, where and how. That gave me some power in what seemed to be a powerless situation.
I'm also now open with him about how I am feeling (emotionally and physically) when he gets the urge. If I'm not up to it...he understands and sometimes we take short cuts (wink and a nudge) that satisfy both of us.
Talk to your DH...let him know how you feel. If he loves you (which I don't doubt) he will be willing to listen and work with you.
Well that's my 2 cents worth. Hope you can find a happy resolution to your problem.
Hugs,
Tam
I know what you mean about the disease. I say I am on the other side of it now. But that only means I am not in a deep dark suicidal depression. That is where I was two years ago. It was a long, hard road to get here. People(some) on the outside of this disease see you as lazy, manipulative. "Just get over it" I love that. Sure you tell me how. I still have bad days, still go to a Phsyciatsrist monthly. Take meds. But I am functioning, taking care of my children, which I did not do for a long time.Just living my life. It sounds like you are doing a great job if you are able to still care for a two year old, so kudos to you!! Stick in there. And keep in touch. Susan