how do I tell about my son and bipolar??
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| Fri, 06-25-2004 - 12:42pm |
the same thought keeps running thru my mind over and over..
How do I tell paul about my son and about me being bipolar???
I want to tell him about Jakob soon but I do not know how soon and then I do not want to wait to long and have him think that I was hidding it from him that is not the case I just want to be sure that paul is more than a passing ship in the night since Jakob is so special to me I do not tell just anyone about him...it has been almost a month and he seems to really like talking with me and seeing me and I do not want to wait for a few more months to pass cause then it will really seem like I am hiding something how do you tell someone that you have a kid? how long should you wait? I am confused...
I also dont know when I should tell him about my bipolar I know that I should wait a bit longer telling him that since I do not want him to run away screaming from me freaking out and I know it isnt as important as telling him about jakob I think I will wait a bit longer on that one since it is under control pretty well now I just hate this that its what it is I am afraid that paul will treat me different think I am a loony bin or something but I know that I need to tell him before it gets serious if it even goes that way....I know I am being silly but I kinda get thoughts into my head and I can not shake them they spin around and around my head until I can solve them no matter how hard I try they just sit there and spin over and over that is what I hate my mind is never quiet..Paul got a taste of that on saturday at dinner we were talking and then BAM I jumped onto a whole other topic because it was in my head he just looked at me funny and laughed I tried to explain it to him but I couldnt get the right words out he makes me nervious I tend to babble and fidget when I am nervious but it is a good nervious, oh well....
I also wanted to thank everyone for replying to my baby steps post I appreciate it alot
I mentioned the eating disorder thing but its funny cause I am not anorexic or bulimic I dont know what I am and the sad thing is there is nothing on the web about anyhitng other than over eating binge eating anorexia stuff like that nothing under anything else and that bugs the heck out of me cause I need to know what is wrong with me I need to have some label that way I can understand myself better that way I know what is wrong with me I hate not knowing that eats away at me I used to think I had BDD but I dont know anymore all I know is that I get into my head that I can be thinneer I used to be thinner 90 pounds granted being that thin didnt make me happy just made me want to loose more weight and that was all I could think about I freaked out ever now and then about me having to gain weight but if I didnt I would have had to go into the hospital and that really would have freaked me out okay I can not wait to go to therapy next week I really have so much to talk to marnie about I should make my list now that way I do not forget anything.....
okay off to answer more posts..
Erin

I don't know what to tell 'ya sweetie. I agree that telling him about Jakob is an important thing.
Sorry, I am a bundle of nerves right now myself and I can't really think straight!
Sending ((((((HUGS))))))
Pamela
Sweetie,
When I was first dx with bipolar and I was not under meds yet, I explained to my son (5) that "mommy has an illness that makes her get angry and that mommy has a hard time controlling her moods so I need to take medicine for it".
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While I do agree that you should tell him about your son, I'm not so sure about the bipolar thing. I think it's a great idea to bring up your son while talking about your vacation and explaining it then.
I just think that in any new relationship it's hard enough to get to know that other person, and it might scare him off not knowing enough about it, or never having to deal with somebody that has to deal with any form of depression. Only you know if he is open to that subject and if he would be understanding.
Good luck......Hugs Ilka
Erin, remember that Paul has been getting to know you for a while now.
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