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| Tue, 07-20-2004 - 6:26pm |
He was drunk by the time I got home from work. We talked about the drinking. He said he does it to keep from feeling pain - pain from what? A couple months ago he turned to another woman looking for a cure for his 'unhappiness' which from what I read is fairly common. He cheated once. He was drunk. He loves me and said he wanted to work it out. He's drowning in guilt and is absolutely terrified of hurting me again. He says he feels like a shell of a person and has no strength left to fight. I tell him we can find ways to fight it together with medication etc. He looks at depression as an 'excuse' for him cheating. He often tells me he broke his own heart when that happened. A cheating person is not him. He says he's no good for me and that he can't save me. Save me from what? Him. ??????? He says that someday he's going to have to make me leave him so I can be happy. I don't want to leave. This is a truly wonderful, imperfect human being who has flaws like everyone else, who makes mistakes that are forgiveable. He feels like he's just going through the motions - that he feels nothing for anyone or anything. How can he say he loves me so much then? I wish I could help him.

I wish I had the words to help you help him too hun..
*hugs
i know your story in a way expect i am in a different position. Its my father who is the one who drinks and i relate to what you said in your message in a way and am still trying to find answers to what goes on in their mind. The lonely nights waiting for him to come home are so bad and when you hear the sound of the door opening when you know it is them is worse. The next day when you confront them they dont reply because of the guilt they are feeling and with that guilt they think that by drinking again will help it and they are getting themseleves into worse situations. With your situation im sorry to hear about what is going on, noone deserves what you are going throug, all i can say is keep encouraging help to him, but dont forget your own feelings help yourself and whatever you have to do to do that also do it. Just know i understand how you feel and i probably havnt said anything you havnt heard before i just hope you help yourself out, because at the moment its something i havnt done.
hope you sort it out.
xoxoxoxo