Crying in the ladies' bathroom syndrome.

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Registered: 05-13-2003
Crying in the ladies' bathroom syndrome.
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Wed, 07-21-2004 - 7:24pm
Ladies,

I had a nasty situation at work today. A superior was extremely mean to me in front of other people. I was humilitated. I ended up crying in the ladies' bathroom. I haven't done this in quite a while but I still end up crying in the bathroom when someone is nasty to me. How can I stop punishing myself and making myself miserable over someone else's lousy behavior????

Anyone also suffer from crying in the ladies' bathroom syndrome??

SA

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 11:55am
Hi! I'm new to this board but I know exactly what you are talking about. I have had that happen to me at work also. It seems that it always happens at the beginning of the day too. So of course I'm stressed about it all day long. I would be a wreck then after I had my cry I figured wow some people are truly ignorant and insensitive probably both. I don't think they realize how they are. Please don't punish yourself though. It's not you it's them. I had the same problem crying I felt better after I got it out. I also write in a journal. I hope this helps anyway you aren't alone.

Lori
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Registered: 03-22-2003
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 12:34pm

Yes I can admit to that whole heartedly.. sometimes I dont even make it to the bathroom.


I am a very emotional person and I can cry easily when I feel overwhelmed by something whether it its negative or positive. Im a definate happy tears person too hehe.


I never get down on myself for the crying though. Being able to express my emotions is important to me.

*hugs             

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 12:51pm
I cry very easily and usually I don't even make it to the bathroom! My old supervisor had the habit of saying things and THEN thinking about it. She would just blindside me with insensitive comments and right away my eyes would water and the tears would start flowing. She'd feel AWFUL and apologise and apologise. But the incident that ended her insensitivity was when she misinterpreted something I'd done and made the decision to just fire me. She came up to me while I was working and interacting with people, and told me they were going to find someone else to do my job. Immediately I couldn't breathe. I asked if we could go into her office to talk about it. And had a major, major panic attack. I managed to explain myself through it and she realised how she'd misinterpeted what I'd done. She begged me to take my job back! She almost started to cry, because I was hyperventilating and shaking and crying so badly. I ended up having to leave early because I didn't have my Ativan on me. But after that point, she was so much more sensitive, and I worked there for six more months before getting a new job in my field.

I'm not saying you should break down in front of your supervisor--that could easily go against you. I just wanted to let you know that you're not the only one who cries easily--and I think it's so awesome that you're able to make it to a private place before you lose it. I don't know if emotional sensitivity is something that you can do very much to "correct." In my case, I need to work on staying calm until I can be alone or with someone I trust before breaking down. But you can already do that, so maybe this is your body's way of 'releasing' the pain you feel from your boss' insults. I would say just keep letting yourself cry and try not to beat yourself up about it. Letting your emotions out is so much better for you than holding it in.

Hope that helps.

Elise