drinking and loved ones

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2004
drinking and loved ones
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Thu, 07-22-2004 - 6:29am
Hey everyone

i need some help i dont know wat to do my father drinks like there is no tommorow ithink he does this because he hates me? or wants to escape from me and i just dont understand why he does it?? its like the next day there is nothing to say he cant even answer me about why he does it just sits there and pretends he cant hear me, i dont know wat iahve done. i need some help if anyone is in the same situation as me please give me some advice, it just hurts so much

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-09-2003
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 11:16am
Your father's drinking has nothing to do with you. He is an alcoholic. He probably doesn't respond when you try to talk about it because he feels so ashamed of what he's done.

Have you ever heard of the organization Al-Anon? They are related to Alcoholic's Anonymous. Al-Anon is the group for loved ones of alcoholics. They hold meetings everywhere at many different times. You can look Alcoholics Anonymous up in the phone book. Call them and ask them about when and where they have Al Anon meetings in your area. You don't say how old you are, but it would really help you if there's anyway you can get to one of those meetings. It sounds like you really need suport right now to get through this situation. The main thing you need to know is that your father's drinking IS NOT YOUR FAULT! He is the parent. He is the one who should be acting responsibly. But he is an alcoholic. Alcoholics make drinking their number one priority. Nothing matters to them as much as the alcohol. It is an illness, but not getting help is also a choice. The best thing you can do is to get help for yourself. The people at Al Anon will be much better able to help you than the rest of us. They deal with this issue every day. They have all been in relationships with alcoholics and they know the situation you are in and how to handle it.


Good Luck,

MariaC