Phobias taking over

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Phobias taking over
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Wed, 07-28-2004 - 10:05pm
Hello everyone,

I'm new here. I am a roller coaster of emotions. I have so many phobias that I feel like I'm not living my life. I have a fear of water, heights, failure, choking, social, ghosts, injury....The worst one is that I care too much what people think! I guess I don't want to look stupid that I hardly try anything, and I get embarrassing panic attacks when I finally get the courage to try. I have my defense mechanisms when I get challenged that I have been known to cause confrontation. I hate being the "Bitch", but one thing I pride myself in is not letting people push me around. The sad thing is that I didn't use to be like this. Most of my true friends know me as a nice, funny, and confident girl. I can't even remember when I evolved into this horrible and depressing person. I moved to a new area around 3 years ago and I only have 2 girlfriends. We barely hang out because I don't want to scare them off by being that annoying friend with all the problems that calls all the time. Is this dumb or not? I have my good days and I have my bad days, and it seems like I've had so many bad days that anything sets me off (crying, bad attitude, depression). I guess I need advice on letting go of something that I have let take over me. Am I alone, or are there other people who, not just face it, but struggle with it?

txhicony

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 11:07am

Hi and welcome!


Phobias are a real problem hun and I think many people battle them even if they dont always put a name to them.


I would suggest as a starter to talk to your doctor about perhaps a med to easy some of your anxiety.

*hugs             

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 1:03pm
I agree with what caly said, I can not even imagine what it is like to have all those phobias do you recall at all when the first one started and if something triggered it I know for me when I go swimming I have no problem going under water but I can not go in water that hits my neck I get afraid that I am going to choke and die, a friend told me that maybe I was choked to death in a past life but who knows all I do know is that I am afraid to go into water which hits my neck I literally can not breath, well I found out after alot of research with my family that when I was a small child I fell through a floaty tube that small kids go into when swimming and I almost drowned to death no one noticed Iwas at the bottom of the pool..so I kow now why I am so afraid of the water...

Okay sorry about that this is not about me

do you have a therapist that you can talk to? I have heard that meds help out alot...are you taking anything as of now?

I have heard that talking about the phobia and confronting the phobia helps alot of course under the care of a therapist is the best way to do it....

I wish I had more insight to give to you maybe the other ladies here know more about this topic.

I wish you the best of luck.

Erin