Helpless of Boyfriend's Depression
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Helpless of Boyfriend's Depression
| Sun, 08-15-2004 - 2:15am |
My boyfriend always seems to be depressed. It's hard because I also suffer from it. He falls quiet or paces a lot. I'm worried about him. He works a full time job, cleaning parkades at one of the local malls. He worries about things too much and picks them apart. It's hard sometimes because I want to tell him things that are bothering me, or just general talking to him. I feel that I always have to be careful of what I say or how I word it. There are so many times where I have upset him unintentionally(of course) He has told me that he started being depressed after one of his friends had commited suicide in the summer before they were to go into grade 9. He's now 23. I feel so bad that he feels that way and try to help him as much as possible. It's hard sometimes though, I'm confused of what to do sometimes, either leave him be for a while, or just be there and hug him and be there for him to talk to. He says that I do help him a lot, but I don't see how I do. I do what any other human being would do, be there for him. He's gotten a couple of panic attacks since we've been together. One was worse than the other, where he had to curl up into a ball because he was pacing a lot and didn't know what else to do. He said that if he hadn't done that, that he wouldn't be here. That is all that he has told me about that one experience. He won't tell me anymore of it because he says that it is personal. But I guessed what he was thinking. It scares me that if he had one at work, what/who would stop him from doing the unthinkable?
I don't know what to do anymore. I have no more ideas of how to help him, other than what I am doin' now.
I don't know what to do anymore. I have no more ideas of how to help him, other than what I am doin' now.
hunny_pooh

Hi Hunny!
Welcome to the board ~
You really cant do more for him then you already do. As you know from your own depression, its really a personal battle and we can only be there to support and listen to the other person.
My thought would be the best thing you can do is encourage him to see his doctor and talk about this.
*hugs