How do you cope?

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Registered: 08-31-2004
How do you cope?
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Tue, 08-31-2004 - 12:22am
How do you cope? Everyone thinks I've got it all together, except dh, and I'm falling apart. My life is a scheduling monster, we've got 1/2 dozen kids (literally), we both work, I volunteer, I do all this stuff in the name of keeping busy or maybe proving I can. But in the meantime, I spend a lot of time crying and I am getting to the point where I can't function. I hate returning phone calls, or answering the phone at all, I don't particulary like taking/picking up the kids from school, I dread little things - taking the dog for a walk or even outside to "go", dishes, laundry, you name it... I dread it... All I want to do is sleep in a dark room with the covers over my face.

All the while everyone is telling me that they don't know how I do it all - I DON'T! HAVEN'T YOU NOTICED????? is what I usually want to scream! If I did it all, the house would be clean, the kids would have their laundry done rather than rushing before school...etc.

I've tried a few meds but I didn't "feel" any different.

It's all so confusing and I feel that I'm in the vicious cycle and don't know how to get out. The more I can't function the worse things get in my life and my marriage, but I can't function to work on them, etc.

So confused...

The Clay Pot

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 11:17am

Hi and Welcome!


Hopefully we can get that clay pot firmly on the shelf before it breaks *smile


Sounds to me, what you need most is some ME time.

*hugs             

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 11:22am

Wow, Sweetie! You've got TONS of stuff on your plate! I've been there with people saying "I don't know how you do it?" I

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Tue, 08-31-2004 - 1:15pm
Hey there. If youre still open to meds, I suggest that you give them another shot. Try a different kind for at least a month every day. Another thing...I dont think it takes depression to exhaust you physically & emotionally either, so I dont think the medication is the only thing to help. Maybe some rules can be set down so that the kids can have more responsibilities & your husband can understand. Try to take a little time out for yourself, & maybe set a date night for u & your hubby. Those things might make a huge difference. Take care
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Registered: 08-31-2004
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 9:00pm
I appreciate everyone very much!

When I said I worked, I should have said that I have a small business. It's suffering due to my suffering which is in turn putting tremendous financial burden on our homelife...

It's very frustrating! I called 2 therapists and a few doctors yesterday and not a SINGLE returned phone call... I FINALLY worked up the nerve and look what happened!

I'll keep plugging away and trying to keep above water...

The Clay Pot

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Wed, 09-01-2004 - 7:23am

Grrrrrrrrrrr Doctors not returning Phone calls is a pet peeve of mine!!!!!!!!!!!

*hugs