What do you do with your regrets?

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What do you do with your regrets?
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Wed, 09-08-2004 - 10:31pm
I have been filled lately with the emotion of deep regret and guilt and I would like to know how some of you handle this. I am not very good at just putting things behind me. My husband says to just wake up and make it a new day. How is this done? I wish I knew. I have wasted most of the last twenty years regretting some of the life altering decisions I have made. How do I pick up and move on when the reminders are around me everyday? Thanks for your help. Hugs, Brenda

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 09-09-2004 - 12:15am

Well i think of like this i wouldn't be who i am now, if i changed anything along the way, it's all part of what makes me ..me... kind of like a painting on a canvas wor words in a book, it's part of

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Thu, 09-09-2004 - 9:39am

Actually, I have talked with Caly a lot about this. I go through periods when I wonder if I knew as a young person what I know now would I have made different choices. Yes, I would have made some different choices but for the most part I wouldn't have. The things I did got me to where I am today and that is to a life filled with happiness and love. I can sit and dwell on my regrets, but really, where does that get me? I can't change my past. All I can do now is move forward with confidence and goals because now I really know what I want. I know how hard it is to let go of those regrets, and I think some of them do need to be processed fully in order to be able to lock them away forever. I finally told myself that I was letting life get away from me by not living in the moment, however. I don't want to lose the one chance I have at finding happiness.


Big hugs to you. (((((((((((((Brenda))))))))))))

Ting 

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Thu, 09-09-2004 - 1:34pm

Just remember my sweet Lady, You are NOT going to lose me no matter what..

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Thu, 09-09-2004 - 1:40pm

You know Brenda


What I did is give it a lot of thought and realized that deep down I truly dont have any regrets.

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Thu, 09-09-2004 - 3:10pm
Thank you, my love. I love you too....and yes it is meant to be and we have a never-ending road ahead of us to travel together. (((((((((Caly))))))))))

Ting 

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Registered: 03-05-2004
Thu, 09-09-2004 - 3:59pm

This is what has helped and does help (for me): Writing, faith and knowing that "you're never too old to become what you might have been" (don't know

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Thu, 09-09-2004 - 5:04pm
Thanks to everyone for your responses. I am glad you all have found such peace. I guess I didn't state my question very well. I need to know how you found that peace. How do I go on knowing my life has been such a failure. I am not good at anything. My whole life has been spent around people who are there only to tell me why I am wrong. Even my husband, who for the last twenty years has taken it upon himself to prove to me that I am worthless and stupid. He promised to love and cherish and all I hear is critisism. How did I get this way? I don't want to do this anymore. How do I find peace in a world that is unwilling or unable to accept me as I am. Maryn I used to have faith, but my faith is torn and tattered. I still attend church, but more to sing than anything. I try not to blame God. I want to believe that he put me on this earth as a self sufficient woman. I have just screwed it all up. I am the one to blame for my life. That is such a hard concept for me to grasp. I don't know why. I want to know why God has let me mess up this much. Why didn't fate step in and say go this way instead? Sorry for the ramble. Take care of yourselves. Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Thu, 09-09-2004 - 5:13pm

(((Brenda)))


I wish there was something I could tell you that would "help" - I do believe that God has put stumbling blocks in my life to teach me things - and sometimes those lessons are impossible to see until long after, sometimes those lessons aren't visible until another stumbling block comes along.

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Thu, 09-09-2004 - 6:56pm
Maryn, How do I get to the Christian marriage board? I have an interest in seeing their views on marriage and divorce. Hugs, Brenda

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Thu, 09-09-2004 - 7:39pm

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Your answer to this one sweetie is that The ONLY person in the world who has to accept you is YOU!

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