I need some advice

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Registered: 10-28-2003
I need some advice
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Thu, 09-09-2004 - 9:26am
hi guys! i have never posted here before but i am looking for some help. i am 23 yrs old and have always had issues with severe anxiety and mild depression since i was a child. but i am here because of my mom. i live away from home and am pregnant and with everything that has been going on, my mom has become very depressed. it's so hard for me to talk to her on the phone or through email becuase she is so down. she is almost making me feel guilty for moving away...and i'm only three hours away, it's not too far. i visit home about once a month and always keep in touch. but i jsut feel so helpless with her. i am on meds and she used to be, but she doesnt' want to go back on them right now, she wants to try and get through it. problem is i cna't stop worrying about her. she is 53, still married, but my dad is a work-a-holic and isn't around much. my brother still lives near them and is there a lot, but i think he is oblivious to what is going on. Anyway, i don't know if there is anything i can do or not, i am open for suggestions though!

thanks for listening and take care,

Nikki

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Thu, 09-09-2004 - 9:48am
Welcome, Nikki! That is a tough one. It is so hard to watch someone you love struggle with depression and not be in a place where they have the wherewithal to get help. I think you are doing the right things, keeping in touch and showing her you care for her and love her. Perhaps you could mention your concerns to your brother. Don't forget to take care of YOU and that baby too. That is very important. Big hugs to you and your mother. ((((((((((Nikki))))))))))

Ting 

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Thu, 09-09-2004 - 1:47pm

Hi and Welcome!


Kirche had some great suggestions about discussing your concern for your Mom with your Brother and your Dad as well.

*hugs