Yes---it's me---complaining again...

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Yes---it's me---complaining again...
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Mon, 09-20-2004 - 11:37pm
Hi guys, so sorry, but I really need a shoulder to cry on. It's been a long day. I left the house at 6:20 and didn't get home again til 10 PM. Tomorrow is pretty much the same except I'll make it home about 9:30. My husband has been home all evening and yet the kitchen (which was clean when I left this morning) was a pigsty! Dishes all over, melted ice cream on the counter. Dishwasher had clean dishes in it---he couldn't bother to unload it. I just don't know why I bother. I really try hard to keep busy and I have to try so hard at school not to cry and I'm just so tired all the time and he's such a jerk. I told him last night that the darkness really wasn't lifting this time and he said I was lucky I didn't have a real disease like he does (he's diabetic---controlled by a pill and exercise). I'd better get to bed. I have to get up again in a few hours and try to make it thru another day. yippee Debbie
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Mon, 09-20-2004 - 11:45pm
Hang in there Debbie, I understand even though I don't work the long hours you do, I can't keep my house looking like anything for very long. I get up very early and get it cleaned up fairly well and when I walk back through the doors it looks like nothing was done! I don't think there are many women that cannot understand the frustration of what you just posted.

Lynette

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Tue, 09-21-2004 - 6:18am
Thanks Lynette
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Tue, 09-21-2004 - 3:43pm
((((Deb)))) This is a support board...talk all you want. We are here for you! My stomach dropped with your comment that your husband made. You have a real illness, you are fighting really hard against. Have you ever considered couples therapy? It might help your husband figure out your battle. Just a thought.

We are here to listen. I know how much you fight this disease. I also know that you are a wonderful human.

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.

Take care,

Lisa-)

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Registered: 08-29-2004
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 5:57pm
Your venting, not complaining. Big difference. This is a support board and sounds to me like you need some support. Please do not be so hard on yourself. Depression or no depression, every woman can relate. I'm sorry he said such a hurtful thing to you. Could he be defensive because he is frustrated he can't fix your problem? Men tend to get mean when they can;t "fix" something. If he is just being a jerk, we can listen. (((((HUGS)))))
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 8:51pm
Debbie, don't ever worry about posting here...it's always good to hear from you. As someone else here said, my stomach also dropped when I read what your husband said to you...I'm not sure what his reasons for saying that were, but I do know that it was wrong...you definitely have a disease, and you are fighting it so courageously. I can imagine how frustrating it must be when your husband doesn't even seem to help out around the house...I would also ask if you've considered couples therapy.

I'll keep you in my thoughts and hope that things improve,

Rose