My Brother Insults me! --triggers

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Registered: 02-04-2004
My Brother Insults me! --triggers
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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 11:43am
Hi Everyone,

I am not feeling well...and I need advice :( Im not sure if there are triggers in here or not...but to be safe I wanted to mention it...

I recently began seeing doctor and have only had two visits. She said that I am depressed and have a lot of issues I need to address in order to feel better.

I recently had to move back home with my parents because my ex boyfriend asked me to move out of the house we shared...Just before he asked me to move out, I purchased a brand new car. So financially I could not afford to move out on my own, as I would have to rent an apartment, furnish it and feed myself...And I do not know anyone looking for a roommate

I feel like a failure due to the fact that my relationship failed, my boyfriend no longer loved me, I lost the beautiful house we shared, and now at 24 Im back home with my parents...when most people my age are living on their own, engaged and starting their lives.

Ever since I moved home my brother has been very rude and insulting. He doesnt live at home, he lives with his girlfriend and her son. He thinks its funny to get me going by putting finger prints and smudges all over my car...he even lets his girlfriend's son do it...Last night he did this and I hit him and started crying. I pretty much broke down and couldnt deal...

I sent him a text message this morning asking what he and his girlfriend were doing this weekend...He sent me messages back telling me I was immature and he didnt want to talk to me for 10 years. I mentioned at one point Id like to ride with him to a football game for his girlfriends son. He told me I couldnt go because I might scratch my car. I asked him if I could ride with him and he said no he didnt want me in his car...He said I can not act crazy one minute and then move on and pretend as if nothing happened...

When I try to talk to my mom about it she tells me to grow up. That I am 24 and should be more mature. I tell her it hurts my feelings how he treats me and she just starts yelling at me. I dont have any friends, as they are all now friends with my ex. I thought I could go to my mom for help but she never listens to me and just ignores what I am saying. I dont know what to do...Im trying so hard to deal with the breakup, the move and everything else I have bottled up inside...The last thing I need is for my brother to be trying to push my buttons...

Any advice...I dont know what to do or where to go...I feel like everyone is abandoning me...

Thanks

*A*

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Registered: 01-27-2004
Sat, 10-02-2004 - 12:06pm

(((((Abby))))), forgive my bluntness, but your brother is an ill-mannered clod, and your mother should be smacking some manners into him instead of trashing you!