Adrift In The Sea of Identities

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Adrift In The Sea of Identities
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Sat, 10-09-2004 - 11:03pm

For almost a year now I've been up and down like a roller coaster.

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Registered: 09-10-2004
Sun, 10-10-2004 - 1:10am

((((((((((((( Pookie )))))))))))))


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Robin

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Registered: 07-01-2004
Sun, 10-10-2004 - 9:20am
((((Traci))))) Please know you always belong here with us. If any set of people can get what you are feeling, it is us. We are bonded by so much. I know people question the things you question. I know that when you feel a loss...whether huge (like a parent) or simply a friend leaving...loss is loss. And dealing with it is not a fun prospect. You are at the very least addressing your issues. That is a fabulous step.

Many people avoid the issues...you are doing your best to move forward. Good for you.

I just wanted you to know that people here care.

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.

Take care,

Lisa-)

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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 9:59pm

Thanks (((((((((((Robin)))))))))) and ((((((((((((((Lisa)))))))))))))).

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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 9:18am

Traci -


Don't know you yet, as I am fairly new to the Board, but totally identify with your
gremlins"!


It was (and still is) the hardest thing for me to do, but what has helped immensely (when I can do it!) is to quit trying to figure it all out. I'm 42 and still questioning my sexually orientation. After the death of my (female) life partner of 8 years, I ended up having a brief (and dysfunctional) relationship with a man. I think the bottom line is I can go on either side of the fence. And I have absoutely NO IDEA who, or what gender, the next right person to walk into my life will be (I'm hoping that I will not be alone for the rest of my life). And, after LONG discussions with my therapist, decided that I really don't need to know. When it happens and it is right, I'll know it.


Just like my career (I changed careers and started working part-time instead of full-time - a choice in order to have some balance in my life, but of course the gremlins say it's because "I can't cut it!"), what I'm doing next week, what i'm doing next year, what will happen with my mood in the coming months, etc. My (AA) sponsor and others keep telling me "more shall be revealed", but of course i want to know now! But in all honesty, my life is better when I don't worry about it or try to figure it all out. But, as they say, old habits die hard!!


I'm trying to just go along for the ride on the rollercoaster - I wish there weren't so many ups and downs, but I've learned that trying to fight it doesn't work. My fortune cookie the other night said "Many changes are happening in your life - just go with the flow." It's become my new mantra!


Many hugs!!!

peace and love,


just_a_big_kid


Sue

peace and love,

just_a_big_kid

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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 10:24am

Thanks (((((((((((Sue))))))))))).

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Registered: 10-12-2004
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 4:08pm
{{{{{{Traci}}}}}}

I have had many of those same feelings that you have. I am no quiet sure what I am or who I am. I hope you find some peace in yourself because sometimes that is all we have is ourselves. I too have taken care of my parents I lost my dad a few years ago. I know that can be hard. I am sorry for your loss.

Take care {{{{{{Traci}}}}}}

Callie

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Registered: 04-18-2003
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 10:59pm

Reading your questions helped me figure my self out a little.


Questioning identity like the question you have

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