Confused about my life

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Registered: 10-25-2002
Confused about my life
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Fri, 10-15-2004 - 2:35pm
I feel as if I have no sense of direction or control really. I was fired 14months ago after holding down a job for almost two years. The reason, "work was fine, personality not" they claim I was rude to the co-workers. So I got the first offer in over a year for some not good job at all yesterday but declined the offer. I'm being supported money wise by my husband. I feel like I'm letting him down especially since I declined the offer. I just don't know what to do and am starting to feel bummed out. Why should I be this unhappy in only 24yrs of being on this world which sucks anyway?!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-15-2004 - 3:08pm
I'm so sorry you're having such a difficult time. Don't add the stress of guilt to your burden. You and your husband signed on for better or worse, and hopefully he understands where you're at right now.

My suggestion would be to first examine what caused you to fired. This is a painful thing to do. It means looking at the reality of what went wrong. Even if you were a model employee there is always room for improvement, and by taking the experience and examining it you can learn things that will make you even better on your next job.

I don't know what you do for a living, but have you tried temporary agencies? It's a great place to learn the job market, gain new skills, and meet people who can ultimately offer you a good position. Don't give up. Get out there, put on your best face, and be determined that anything negative your last employer claimed about you is untrue. This is a stumbling block. Crawl over and shine. HUGS

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Fri, 10-15-2004 - 3:12pm
Thank you for your very kind reply. I have since been volunteering and am overcoming/learning how to control my emotions and put on a "fake face"... I'm kind of in the groove of it now and the workers at the volunteer place really like me. I have been to temporary places in the past and got my hopes up with temp-hire that ultimately did not go permanent and in turn I have too many of those jobs on my resume that employers don't like too much.. thinking that it is job hopping. I'll just keep at it. Just one of those days I guess. I really appreciate your kindness.
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Registered: 10-04-2004
Fri, 10-15-2004 - 7:43pm

I've become a master (or mistress???) at putting on my "fake face" to get through the day at work. Just be sure you take care of yourself, particularly when you get home. Be kind and gentle to yourself. I have found that putting up the front that everything is OK is really exhausting.

peace and love,

just_a_big_kid

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Registered: 10-25-2002
Tue, 10-19-2004 - 7:19pm
Thank you for your reply. I'm doing better today. I swear I feel worse when it is getting close to the time of the month. I wish I could go back in time and redo somethings. I feel stuck sort of and think that here I am 24 yrs old and have been fired three times and now no job at all, depending on my husband, etc. I'll keep at it though. The cold, rainy weather doesn't seem to be helping much though lol

Thanks for responding.