New to site and hoping for help
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| Sat, 10-16-2004 - 2:41pm |
I am new to this site and being a male I am reluctant to put anything here. But there seems to be no outlet for men that are going through this. SO a friend told me to sign up here and get the womans point of view. I am going through a real tough time right now. I just got laid off from my job, my wife and I just had our third child and I am tired of the domestic abuse that is occuring. I know you are saying "huh?" But it is true. No my wife does not hit me or anything like that. It is more of an emotional abuse. She controls every bit of my actions, who I can see and not see, where I can go and when, never allows me to have money to do anything for myself, says terrible and degrating thisngs to me and my kids that make us feel worthless and helpless. I am already seeing a counselor for depression and I have attempted suicide in the past. I am afraid to leave her because I love my three children but I need to get myself out of this bad situation before it is too late and I finally succeed at killing myself. Any ladies who have gone through this, please let me know how you got through it. Or anyone that has any good advise, please let me know what you think I can do. PLEASE HURRY!!!

Maureen/Mo
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Hi Wolfey and Welcome!
Im so glad you had the courage to post!
*hugs
Thank you for your support. I truly understand all that you are asking. I find that I really do need to start to repair my life and get it back to where I feel that I can be happy too. The biggest problem that I have right now is other than my counselor, I have no one to talk to. In the whole process of my life, I have let my wife convince me that my entire network of friends and FAMILY are no good for me. And we moved many miles away from everything and everyone that I ever knew. I am now in a new state with no friends, or family that I can rely on. Through the years I had been so brainwashed by my wife that I neglected my family and friends and got so angry at them over things that my wife convinced me they were doing that a lot of the relationships are truly unrepairable I believe. I thought of all of this when in your profile it asks the question, "If you were stuck on a deserted island..." That is the way I feel. Alone and now have no one to turn to. My biggest fear is that no one will believe me that all this occured anyway. I am a man and men are supposed to be the bad guys... :( Which trust me, I KNOW THEY ARE. But I find myself in a situation that I feel there is no escape from. I understand that my children need me in their lives. But some times that just does not seem like the case. I am so depressed at times that I neglect my children and I cannot even get out of bed. It is those times that I feel like I wish I had never been born and that everyone would be better off without me. I am currently on the highest doses of some pretty strong medicines to try to help out with my depression, but I am sure you know how that goes sometimes. Anyways, thank you a million for your reply. I find that talking to others does help me. I understand that the level of depression of people sometimes keeps them from reading or replying. I appreciate you having the courage to reply back to me. I hope to keep in touch here as often as I can. I feel like this may be a therapeutic place for me. Thanks a million.
Kevin
Kevin
Maureen/Mo
If this was a real life it would have come with instructions.