my brain wont let me get too happy

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my brain wont let me get too happy
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Sun, 10-17-2004 - 11:47pm

Why is it that when things are going well....and I actually start to feel really happy...I quickly start to realise everything that is not going well?


Take right now, DH and I are about to move. We have spent the last 2 years living with his family while both of us were in school full time. We decied that we would move out, we foud a great place, bought a beautiful dining room set and are moving in the weekend before Nov. 1. I am so excited....and then....just stupid things that are going on...things that I really have little control over...things that have nothing to do with us moving....These things just pop into my head. Its almost like my brain is saying....oh no, you cant get that happy.


What is with that?!?! DOes anyone else get that?


:o/


michelle






Michelle


February 1, 2002

Michelle

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Mon, 10-18-2004 - 1:12pm
Hi Michelle, I get it. My therapist has told me I have spent so many years in crisis and stressed that my body simply does not know how to live without it. Many many people not just me create crisis or negative thoughts because happy is simply not comfortable for them. They keep waiting for the other shoe to drop, something bad to happen simply because so often it has. Moving is a lot of stress even when it's a good move so this may just be your bodies way of letting you know it's stressed. Perhaps your worried about the money your spending or as odd as this sounds suddenly being alone with dh? Are you in therapy? I am sure the CL's or someone else will have opinions to offer or advice but I wanted you to know someone had read your post. The changes sound like a good thing to me so I hope you can relax and enjoy your new place. Hugs Mo

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Tue, 10-19-2004 - 8:57pm

Thanks for your reply. That makes a lot of sense. Maybe its more stressful than i realise....Maybe its my bodies way of regulating.


SO far I have just tried to note whenever it happens...and try to see what triggered it...tired, hungry, whatever.


Thanks for the input!


:o)


michelle






Michelle


February 1, 2002

Michelle

February 1, 2002  Married my Best Friend<

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Tue, 10-19-2004 - 9:46pm
I agree with previous post. Don't know what to do when things are going smoothly. Much to used to drama. And at times, I think I'm more afraid of success than failure, because if I succeed, then I'll have to take some responsibility for my life!

peace and love,


just_a_big_kid


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peace and love,

just_a_big_kid

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Tue, 10-19-2004 - 10:17pm

I am so glad that I dropped in here and read your post.