Thinking that my coworkers dont like me

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Thinking that my coworkers dont like me
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Wed, 10-27-2004 - 6:25pm
Hello all. Im working part time at a coffee shop about 18 hrs per week & soon will start working 22 hrs per week. We are usually really busy & dont have time to chat but lately it has been a bit quieter & therefore ppl are chatting more. Well I feel like my coworkers dont like me very much. Im not sure if Im just thinking it or what. There is this one woman there who is pg & I bumped into her a couple of times (lightly & not on her belly!) b/c there is very limited space in which we have to move around. I said "Your baby probably hates me" & she smiled & said "Maybe"...hmm does that mean anything? I feel like I cant talk to them much. I dont really know what to say. I know my boss likes me as a worker but I dont know if she likes my personality. She tends to joke with the other employees but not with me. The only time I talk much is on Saturdays when I work with only one other person & it isnt busy. We tend to talk about our lives, etc. On Sat we were talking about what bugs us that other coworkers do. I tried not to name names but I guess you could say we sort of gossiped in a sense. I never gossip b/c Im not good at it & dont agree with it. Well since then I have felt a little worse b/c it seems like if someone does something another person doesnt like, they will tell another coworker. Since Im still relatively new I still make some mistakes, but I worry ppl will talk about it. Also, the coworker that I work with on Saturdays who chats with me pretty much doesnt acknowledge me during the rest of the week when its more busy. I dont know if its b/c its more busy or what...anyways sorry for making this post so long. Thank you for listening :)
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Wed, 10-27-2004 - 11:34pm

Hi D, fancy running into you here!


Oh, I don't know what to say. These work situations

peace and love,

just_a_big_kid

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Thu, 10-28-2004 - 3:55pm
(((Michelle))) I'm glad you posted, b/c I was just thinking that I hadn't seen that cute cat around lately. When we are depressed, it is easy to imagine that everyone hates us. We ALL do it, because we don't much like ourselves. I wouldn't take what your coworker said too seriously; having being pg myself twice, I know pg women can be pretty moody at times! At least she smiled at you. As for your boss, she may not be comfortable joking w/ you yet b/c, as you say, you're new and she needs to feel you out first. Also, it's probably best to stay away from gossip if it makes you feel bad, and try not to take it too personally if others don't talk to you when it's busy. Do they talk to each other, or is everyone pretty much just doing their job? Give yourself a little time to settle in before deciding whether or not ppl like you.

Take care of yourself,

Nicola

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Fri, 10-29-2004 - 9:51am
Hi Sue & Nicola! Thanks for replying. Well I know that we shouldnt worry about what other ppl think but its hard to live by it. I actually havent been worrying about that stuff much b/c Ive been too busy to care a lot, but I just started to notice that when it gets less busy it feels like they joke with each other but not me. I think I also get intimidated a bit too. So Ill try to just keep the attitude of being there for $, and hope that they will want to talk to me more. Keeping my fingers crossed that it gets better --> X

Thanks guys ;)

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Fri, 10-29-2004 - 8:05pm
it's good that you don't gossip- it is a total flaw that i have and wish i didn't/ usually when peiople talk about other people they are just unhappy with themselves. lots of the people that are made fun of the most are the ones everyone is jealous of. it's just easier to cut someone down sometimes than feel inferior. so don't worry about them. i worry all the time myself that people at my restaurant don't like me and lots of the time if they seem rude or grumpy it is because they have been on their feet and they are tired and it has nothing to do with me. i bet it is the same with you. just try to do your job the best you can and be good to people around you, and don't worry about anything else. i like you!
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 12:01pm
Hey Voguegirl. Thanks a lot! Today wasnt as bad as last week so Im hoping to worry less. By the way how are you doing with things lately?
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Mon, 11-08-2004 - 5:45pm
Hi sorry I dont want to take up extra space as I can see a lot of other ppl are feeling low. I just want to ask for advice or ideas on this...the girl I mentioned who I said that I was bumping into who is pg & I said "your baby probably hates me" & she smiled & said "maybe"..well that same girl is saying a lot to me "I dont like you". Ok so Im not sure if she seriously hates me or what, and why?? Her first language is not English so I think she wants to say something about what she doesnt like about me but she is having a hard time. I have a harder time understanding most accents than other ppl so maybe she doesnt like me b/c of that? I dont know :( Why would she just keep telling me she doesnt like me?