Is love really BLIND Triggers

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Registered: 09-02-2004
Is love really BLIND Triggers
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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 5:19pm
Hi there to everyone on the board. I have really enjoyed being here because I have gotten a lot of responses here compared to other boards. I'm not sure where to start to make a long story short.

I live in Alaska so now we are in the time where it is dark most of the day again. I was in a long relationship and have been separated for a little over a year. I have two children and I love them and they make my world go round. I have kind of been seeing this guy for 5 months and I thought he really cared for me. Well just found out that all he has said has been a lie. All his trips with his church were trips to go meet girls he met on line and going to the field he really was in hotels with other girls. This is a long story short.

I think I was falling in love. I don’t know what to do? I cried and cried last night and then he called me after not hearing from him because he was supposed to be in the field. Should I let him know that I know what he has been doing or should I just stay away? I know I won’t go back and have anything with him but should he hear how I feel?

I just feel really down and don’t understand why I can not meet someone nice someone who will not play games. I don’t think I deserve this from anyone but why did I let him lie to me for so long? I miss him still why in god’s name can I miss someone like that? What am wrong with me am I crazy? Please any advice would be great. I just can’t let go he stays on my mind all the time. WHY? He lied, cheated, (we were not together as a couple but saw him for 5 months), used me for money and I don’t think I want to know the rest.

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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 8:29pm
Hey there. Thats so terrible that this has happened to you & this guy has gotten away with using all these women, including u! Wow what a jerk. Well he lost something really great...You. Man he is missing out. Well if it were me Im sure I would tell him what I know. Please do not let this jerk back into your life anymore. He is not good news at all. Since I dont know the story I cant say if there is the possibility of a misunderstanding, but it sounds like u have a lot of evidence of his activities. I would face him & then kick him to the curb. Im sure you will find a great guy who loves you for who you are. The thing is ppl like that suffer in the end b/c they will never know true love & will never have dignity. I think its normal that u miss him, after all u were falling in love with him. You cant just turn those feelings off, but this time dont follow your feelings of missing him b/c you certainly dont need poison like that in your life. Take care & everything will work out. HUGS