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Firing my therapist
| Sat, 11-13-2004 - 9:37pm |
Hi all, I haven't been around in a while, I started working part time and am very busy, plus I have been doing good emotionally, and sometimes I need to/or just don't not think about the fact that I have depression and therefore don't look at the boards, hope you understand.
Anyway, I have been seeing a therapist, I have seen her a total of 4 times. First time she was late by about 5 minutes. Second time, on time, cancelled one appointment, had some sort of meeting to go to. Third time, cut it 15 minutes early and the other day her previous client ran her 20 minutes over, and she had told me when I made the appt that she had to leave 15 minutes early to go to parent teacher thing. So I got in just a little over a half hour, in which she ate her lunch and wrote out my reciept while I was talking.
I told a friend about this who is in the mental health profession, he says I should dump her and call my insurance co. to ask for another referal and tell them about it, because she is getting paid for the hour, but not giving it to me.
What do you guys think?
Thanks -Erin
Anyway, I have been seeing a therapist, I have seen her a total of 4 times. First time she was late by about 5 minutes. Second time, on time, cancelled one appointment, had some sort of meeting to go to. Third time, cut it 15 minutes early and the other day her previous client ran her 20 minutes over, and she had told me when I made the appt that she had to leave 15 minutes early to go to parent teacher thing. So I got in just a little over a half hour, in which she ate her lunch and wrote out my reciept while I was talking.
I told a friend about this who is in the mental health profession, he says I should dump her and call my insurance co. to ask for another referal and tell them about it, because she is getting paid for the hour, but not giving it to me.
What do you guys think?
Thanks -Erin

I haven't been to see a therapist myself, but after reading your message, I agree with your friend. Your health insurance is paying for a service you are not receiving. And, more importantly, you are not 100% benefiting from a service that you need.
I believe that you should definitely seek out a new therapist who isn't so preoccupied with everything under the sun and who can devote the appropriate amount of time and attention to his/her patients.
Brightest Blessings,
Annika
Brightest Blessings, Annika
feel as if u r not at all important.
i would speak to her first, just to give her a piece of ur mind.
it is important to u, that u tell her what u think of how she
made u feel,
THEN DUMP HER.
that's what i would do.
just my little ole opinion
feel well
kitties
I have been going to mine over 2 years, and less than a handful of times I have gotten less than the actual hour in their time, 50 minutes, but usually I get 60 minutes and at times if she doesn't have anyone after me, she gives me a few minutes over. So those less than handful of times I figure evens out.
But with yours, that is totally unprofessional. She should NOT have even charged you for the half hour one, and unless she asked you, can I eat, that is totally crash also. Mine gets low blood sugar and a few times, she has had a slice of cheese or a handful of seeds, BUT always asks for my permission, and even offers to give me something, so that doesn't phase me, but she doesn't sit there with a full course meal in front of me.
There is much better ones out there, I hope you fine one as mine is a excellent. take care, hugs, Josie.
I agree with everyone else DUMP HER!!!!!!
if my therapist sat there and ate her dinner and short changed me I would leave in a heart beat the thing is and someone else mentioned it she is making it harder for you to heal emotionally and to be able to cope with your depression she is not giving you the thools that are needed in order to heal all she is doing is showing you that she doesn't really care..
you health insurance isnt paying her to eat and to cancel on you theya re paying hert o heal you!!!!
A therapist is supposed to make you feel at ease to give you feed back and the tools to make it thru everyday life all she is doing is showing you what she has for lunch....
the most my therapist will do is suck on a candy and she always offers me one but I decline not cause I sont want one but because I cant (I wont get into why I cant)
I would dump her and call your insurance provider and see if there is someone else you can see it is so obviouse that she isnt fit to be a therapist..
Good luck
Erin
So, how do I go about it. I don't want her to try to fix it, if you know what I mean.
I keep playing it out in my head: Call her and say 'I'm going to cancel my appointments since our schedules don't really work out together.' (When I called her and came in she had VERY limited availability. I really wanted to go in the afternoon-around 4-5 after my DH got home, but she said these exact words "You dont' want to have to rely on your husband for this". Not quite sure what that meant, but it kind of shocked me.
I want to do this as guilt fee as possible-for me. And I don't want her to say that maybe we could work something out - because I already have hard feelings toward her.
Any suggestions?
Thanks -Erin
good luck
Erin