Help.DEPRESSED BOYFRIEND

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Registered: 11-14-2004
Help.DEPRESSED BOYFRIEND
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Tue, 11-16-2004 - 6:25pm

Please help...My boyfriend and I have been together for two months and from the very first moment it was the greatest love. We got emotionally connected and we both never experienced such thing. Suddenly he started to avoid meeting with me. And there was no reason.Our relationship and emotions were getting even deeper-we enjoyed each other like never.Still he sent me messages but not as much as he usually did. But constantly he was saying how much he loves me. And then we didin't saw each other for few days, and when we had plan to go out, he didn't answer my calls. Next day he wrote me msg that he feels very bad, depreesed. and that he LOVES ME;ADORES ME, but he ffles like he don't have freedome, although I was never ever possesive and he was always with his friends. And wrote that he doesn't want to loose me. Next day he called me in the morning said how much he cares That I'm in his head 24/7, that there's no thought about breaking up but that he feels so strange, strange thoughts.That we will meet that day, Since then he ignored my calls. Today i went to the shop he works in and found him in really bad mood. Like totally different person. He told me he is depressed. I offered him support and everything and that we can share everything together and that he can lean on me, that I love him no matter what. He couldn't even look at me. He gave me gentle kiss on the cheek, adn when I was leaving too. I just told him I can wait and that I want to jus the question if he wants me or not. And he told that point is not in that. He promised to call tomorrow so we will meet an talk. But that was what he told last time and didn't call. He ignores me for ten days. totally.
his mum told me this saturday he got so drunk that she almost called ER!

he has awful situation at home, his dad fights his mother, his dad is gay, and awful to him. who knows what kind of abuse his dad did to him. He is very homophobic, and
I don't know... because I was the only light spot in his life! I don't know how to help him and support him? and approach if he doesn't call?? Or just wait..
It is really love of our lives. And we both know it.

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Tue, 11-16-2004 - 8:50pm

Hi and welcome!


The hardest thing about watching someone you love battle depression, is that in the end its a solo fight.

*hugs