I'm Sorry

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Registered: 03-28-2003
I'm Sorry
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Tue, 11-16-2004 - 8:00pm
I was reading posts and I feel so bad that Erin is upset. I know I have not been answering posts for a long time now. I get on intending too----but when I read them I realize I have no answers and then I just feel overwhelmed. Yet---I continue to come and ask for support myself all the time. I am ashamed that I have become such a self involved person. Plus---all of you have real reasons to be depressed and I don't seem to have any. Erin, I hope you stay around. There are some wonderful people on this board. They aren't all like me. Debbie
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Registered: 09-03-2004
In reply to: flute54
Tue, 11-16-2004 - 8:43pm

Debbie, please don't beat yourself up. Self involvement is a symptom of our disease of depression not a reflection of who we are as people. We all do what we can, when we can and that is all we can do. Also some people would think I don't have reason to be how I am. I have a mobile home and a DH who may not be functional but he loves me. I have a car that runs and food in my cubbards. I should be happy according to logic but logic has nothing to do with depression. We don't choose to be depressed and anxious. It's an illness not a choice. So try to be kinder to yourself. You wouldn't put me down for not anwering Erin's email faster, you would be understanding and supportive so give yourself the gift of treating yourself like a friend.


I am going to be out of town till Monday but I will be back and hopefully more stable then. Until then try to cut yourself some slack and give yourself a hug from me.

Maureen/Mo


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Let's put the fun back in dys-fun-ctional

Maureen/Mo

If this was a real life it would have come with instructions.

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Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: flute54
Tue, 11-16-2004 - 8:44pm

Debbie you have nothing to be sorry for!

*hugs             

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Registered: 07-01-2004
In reply to: flute54
Tue, 11-16-2004 - 10:24pm

(((Deb))) Some times things trigger people, some days as much as we try we can't respond quick enough. It is hard to say how people will feel and react.

Erin reacted, though we care, that happens. How many times do we snap at family, when we shouldn't. Here we forget that we all have depression...we all deal in our own ways. And yet even when Erin seemed to be focusing on her own sorrows...she said wonderful and lovely things about the people here she cares about. It is a lucky place to have such a caring person. If she chooses to leave, I would hate that...but nothing you have done or not done would make any changes.

We give and take, you think of me and tell me so. It may only be one line of text, but I know you care. I can't tell you how much that helps me.

I love knowing that I have friends like you and Erin.

We are here for you.

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.
Take care,
Lisa-)
Co-CL Depression Support

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Registered: 11-04-1999
In reply to: flute54
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 4:07am

Oh my gosh Debbie, I sure don't think you are a self absorbed person, no way, no how. I have seen how loving and concerned you are to many of us on the board and it breaks my heart that you are hurting now.

Debbie: take care and you are one of the most so NOT self absorbed people that I know. Love and hugs, Josie.




Edited 11/17/2004 5:37 am ET ET by josannajava
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Registered: 04-07-2003
In reply to: flute54
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 7:54am

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((debbie))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))


You are beating up on

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In reply to: flute54
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 1:29pm
Hi Debbie, I dont know what the situation is right now b/c I havent been on a lot, but I dont think you are a bad person in any way. I think youre a great person. Sometimes we go through phases that are so hard that we dont know how to help ppl b/c we just have to focus on ourselves. Try not to be so hard on yourself. I also feel like I should respond more when I just post stuff. Take care
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Registered: 09-02-2004
In reply to: flute54
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 3:46pm

Hi there, I’m still new here and I can’t say much other then it sometimes takes a while to get a response and that is ok. I know that there are many of needed help with a situation. Once I get a response it is great, for me just to know that there are people out here as yourself that care so much makes my day easier. I felt so alone for so long not thinking that anyone cared until I found this board. I have never been on a board before and I love this board and I don’t know you all that well at all yet, but it seems that you all care and are very excepting of new people and that is wonderful and I thank you all.

Take care,
Bettina