You Gotta B Kiddin me!

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Registered: 11-01-2004
You Gotta B Kiddin me!
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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 4:08pm
Yesterday, I found out that after my baby is born (Oh yeah, I am in labor right now) my mother, step dad and my grandma are going to try and prove that this baby is not my husbands.They said that they have proof. What am I supposed to do in a position like this? Be mad? Be upset? Hurt? I think that maybe they got mad because I didn't invite any of them to my babyshower. I don't think they had a right to come when they told me that they had nothing to do with me and they haven't been in contact with me since then. I am depressed, in pain (of course), and in a very ill mood...Please someone...Anyone... What should I do??? I am scared that they are going to try and take this baby away from me by using my past (as far as my emotional status goes) against me and then succeed. And I can't handle the thought of my whole world being takin' right out from underneath me! I am so lost... I guess that's all for now... Sorry for ventin' again!
I hope that everyone is doing ok and is hanging in there!

Things can only go down so Far until they have to come back up.....

*Fighting for a Reason..

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 4:22pm

AAAHHHH sweetie.....
Is there any way you can just ignore them for now and
then deal with it when you are able?

Just concentrate on the beautiful little person who
is about to enter the world.

Let everything else go until you accomplish this
miracle. Try to relax, it will make labor easier
and enjoy what is about to happen.

Good luck sweetheart...just enjoy for now.
There is nothing more important.

Love Alanna

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Registered: 09-02-2004
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 4:34pm

Hi there!

Sweetheart I think that right now you need to not worry about all that your main concern RIGHT now is you baby. They can proof what ever they want but as long as you are a loving and stable mother and take care of your child there is nothing they can do. I can not believe that your own family is this way wow!! I'm sorry just know that we are here to listen when ever you need. I wish you all the best with you new little baby and love it with all your might. I can’t thank god enough for given me mine.
Email me if you ever need too.
Take care, Bettina

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 3:44pm
First off, they have no right in this world to "prove it". If it's testing they think they're going to do - they can't - it's not their child. I don't post here too often lately (and I appoligize for that), so I don't know anything about this that you might have posted. I think what would be more important is what your husband thinks about all this, not anyone else. Who is going to raise this baby - you I presume. Then tell them to back off. Let them think what they want.
People make mistakes, and if the important person (like a spouse)forgives, then that is all that counts.
My mother (37 years ago), got pregnant by a guy, told my dad it was his, so he married her. They had a miserable marriage because my mother carried around the guilt until my sister was almost 5. Everyone else knew that it wasn't my dad's child, she didn't look a thing like him. Exact opposite. But my dad loved her just like any dad loves his baby. And even after he found out, divorced my mother, but missed my sister (not my mother) so much, they got back together. But it still didn't work out. My mother still made things miserable around the house, so they divorced once again when I was 5.
I'm not really sure why I told you that.
I myself was scared that my kids might be taken away from me if I told anyone I was suicidal. I would never hurt my kids, but wanted to hurt myself (I don't know, I'm much more stable now). But every time I was asked, I said no because of that. When I finally did admit it to my last DR, I told them how I was afraid of my kids being taken away, and they said that couldn't happen.
I think depressed people always think the worst of things, when they actually aren't as bad as they turn out to be.
It sounds like your young, and your family might just feel hurt by the whole situation. Once that baby comes along they'll probably change their tune on everything. Babies are miracles, and can bring miracles too!